Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest week 140: Just Broken, Not Dead. ‎

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‎One thing that happened to me that felt impossible to get through was losing my mum.
‎Growing up, my mum was the person I talked to about almost everything. she was not just my mother, she was my supporter, adviser and the person always knew how to make me feel better when life became difficult. Because of that, I never imagined what life would be like without her.
‎When she passed away, it felt like unreal. I remember waking up every morning hoping it had all been bad dream. For weeks, Months I could not accept the fact that she was gone. The house felt different, her voice was no longer there. Her laughter was gone too, even the little things, like seeing her favorite chair empty, would bring tears to my eyes.
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‎The hardest part was learning how to continue with my daily life, while carrying so much pain inside. There were days when I did not want to leave my room. I lost interest in the things I normally enjoyed and I often found myself crying, when no one was around. Sometimes, I would pick up my cell phone wanting to call her, before remembering that I could not. At that time, I honestly don't know how I would move forward. It felt like a part of me had been taken away forever. But little by little, with the support of my family and friends I began to find strength again. The pain did not disappear, but I learned how to live with it.
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‎Today, I still miss my mum deeply. There are special days when I wish she were here to celebrate with me, and there are difficult moments when i wish I could hear her advice. But I also carry the lessons she taught me, and those lessons continue to guide me everyday. Losing my mum was the hardest thing I have ever experienced, for a year and few Months now, it felt impossible to get through, yet somehow, one day at a time, I did. That experience taught me that, even when life brings unimaginable pain, we can find the strength to keep going, especially when we hold on to the love and memories of those we have lost.

Mum you taught me a lot, but didn't teach me how to live without you...

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‎Losing my mum completely changed what I value most in life. Before she passed away, I spent a lot of time worrying about things like money, school and future plans. I thought those things were the most important things. But after losing her, I realized that time with the people we love is far more valuable than anything else.
‎One of my biggest biggest regrets is not knowing that some of the ordinary moments we shared would become my last memories of her. We often assume that our loved ones will always be there, so we postpone visits, conversations and expressions of gratitude. Losing my mum taught me that, life can change in a single moments. I have learned to value family, time and the little moments we shared. The experience strengthened my faith and taught me that love, relationships and gratitude are far more important than money or success. It reminded me never to take the people I love for granted.
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‎A small win I have had recently was becoming more consistent with my studies. After losing my mum, staying focused was difficult and I often lacked motivation. However, I created a study routine and gradually I am becoming use to it, seeing myself complete my daily goals gives me confidence and reminded me that progress comes from small achievement, but for me, it felt like a huge step forward.
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"What is a new perspective you have gained on life or yourself"?

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‎One new perspective I have gained about life is that, strength does not always look the way we think it does. Losing my mum changed my perspective on life and myself. I learned that true strength is not about hiding your emotions but about continuing to move forward during difficult times. It also taught me to value the people I love and appreciate every moment with them. Through that experience, I. discovered that I am stronger than I thought and that life's challenges can help us grow.
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"Is it really true"What does not kill you, makes you stronger"Why?

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‎I believe the saying"what does not kill you makes you stronger " is partly true.
‎Difficult experience, such as losing my mum, taught me valuable lessons about life. However, hardship does not automatically make someone stronger over night. Some experiences leave deep wounds and can affect people for a long time. Strength does not come from the pain itself, it comes from how respond to it, the support we receive and the lessons we choose to take from it. So, if I had to answer the question, I would say that, what does not kill you can make you stronger, but only if you grow through the experience rather than allowing it to completely defeat you. The hardship gives you the opportunity to become stronger, but the growth comes from how you face it.

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