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INTRODUCTION
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DO YOU THINK IT IS OKAY FOR A PARENT TO ENFORCE DECISION OF THEIR CHILDREN CARRIER?
as a parent that we are, we have a vital role to play in the life of our children so as to help them become who they want to be in the future, because the bible says train up a child in a way that he should go so that when he grow up he will not depart from it. in as mush as we can to inculcate discipline in them because children are most precious gift from God our maker. to me as a parent I don't think it is a good idea to decide or influence on our children Carrie, rather we should guide them in this aspect ,because that is why we are their parent. in every family a mother or a father should be able to know each of his or her children for instance I have four children, then out of this four children that you have A child is good at English language, mathematics, physics, chemistry, and biology, while B child is good at Agricultural science , data processing, further mathematics,
While C child is good at literature in English, civic
education, and the same with the D child because as a parent you cannot influence on each of this children what you want them to become as a Carrier they will rather obey you as their parent and become nothing in life because the bible says in Ephesians 6:1,2 says children obey your parents in the lord for this is rights, honour your father and mother which is the first commandment with promise our children need to be guided by us not to influence them.
DURING THE TIME OF MARRIAGE OR WHEN DECIDING A COURSE TO STUDY IN SCHOOL WHAT IS THE PLACE OF PARENTS IN GUIDING THEIR CHILDREN GUIDELINES
Well in the area of study a child have already knows the area that he or she is good at, in this case this is where our children need our full support or advice by giving them that attention they also need a counsellor to guide them through. most especially in the aspect of a Carrier choice, getting into marriage, When they
are up to the age of maturity Most a time we guided and advising them to choosing the right partner or giving them the best we can either the best schools of their choice because every child has freedom of speech and the rest of all, as a parent we need to pray for our children leading them in the part way of God so that they will become useful in the society. as a godly parent, if we believe in the scripture every other things that we needed shall be added unto us.
CAN A PARENT ACTUALLY MISGUIDE THEIR
CHILDREN IN DECISION MAKING
Well actually some parent may or may not why am saying so is because this is twenty first century generation there were certain Mistake s that we did when we were younger which we might not want it to affect our children but some are still doing it, to me I called it ignorance for instance Mr A want his son to be an engineer while his son decision to become a teacher to me as a parent there is one of my children whose carrier is to become a teacher my duty now is for me to help her archive her goal not in those days when our four fathers were given our mothers in marriage by force Which I know it affecting them mean while misguiding our children decision is not encouraging.
DO YOU HAVE ANY EXPERIENCE OF YOUR PARENT ENFORCING DECISION FOR AGAINST YOUR WILL OR EXPERIENCE OF SOME ONE YOU KNOW?
Absolutely yes, there's this experience that I have at seven years in ninety's when I was in primary three and my father being a teacher I was ask to go and leave with my step sister who had just put to birth and that was how I stop going to school for two and half years before I started school again before I know my brother have already finished school while am still in primary school. and I also have this experience after my secondary school again when my Parent ask me to further my education with the intention to become a teacher in accounting , while in my secondary school days my subject was accounting ,book keeping ,typewriting and shorthand and this was pure commercial subject only for me to realize that my step sister who i was leaving with then had to tell me to be a nurse that every body can not be a teacher in the house, because she a teacher with this I have to rewrite my( WASSCE)again before I could gain admission into nursing and that was when my parents withdraw himself from sending me to school. and my step sister had to take over in paying my school fee's which she stopped halfway and I was struggling in paying my school fee's by making peoples hair and the rest of the things to eat and buy my text books and accommodation but I thank God I made it but after graduation I had to go and work for like one year to gather money and get my result. With this i don't think making a decision or influencing your children is the best thank you bye
While we agree that parents can enforce decisions on their children, a time comes when the children would be old enough to make their own decisions. The parents here now play an advisory role to their children.
I wish you success!