Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week131: Dealing With An Ingrate

In your own understanding, define who an ingrate is.

Have you ever been extremely kind, helpful and supportive to someone and, in the end, you felt betrayed and unappreciated by their ungrateful attitude towards you? That's an experience I have had from most friends, and it hurts to have friends who are ungrateful and unappreciative.

A person capable of this attitude is called an ingrate. Ingrates are unappreciative, unkind, and entitled individuals, people who downplay the efforts of other people and can betray those who have stood by them in difficult situations and times.

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Have you ever dealt with one in the past? if yes, kindly share your experience.

I have had an experience with an ingrate, one I can't easily forget, and an experience that almost changed my opinion about helping others, but then I realized that everyone deserves a chance to be known.

I used to have a girlfriend from university days. I have always supported her through difficult times without hesitating, came through for her like my biological sister and provided for her at every given opportunity. I can remember giving her some money to pay her tuition fee at university and supported her through difficult times.

There was a certain time, I experienced setbacks and could barely provide for myself, and my ex-girlfriend demanded some amount and I couldn't meet up to provide for her needs and that was the beginning of issues. She forgot days I had to go hungry to provide for her, talked down on my efforts in the past and took decisions that hurt me and dealt with pride. The relationship was destroyed, and I realized that if I hadn't been in such a circumstance then, I wouldn't have seen that she possessed the trait of an ingrate.

What lessons did you learn from your experience with that ingrate?

One of the lessons I learned from my experience with an ingrate is that it's impossible to please people, they easily forget the past and can always turn against you regardless of your efforts, impact and role you played in their lives.

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Would you do good to others regardless in spite of your past experience with an ingrate?

My experience with an ingrate will not stop me from being a good person. Everyone deserves a chance to be known. One bad experience wouldn't stop me from getting to know others.

The experience made me understand that not everyone sees your efforts, made me realize the importance of setting boundaries, when to set boundaries and made me wiser.

I will keep being a good person and showing kindness to the world regardless of my experience with an ingrate.