Steem4nigeria Accelerator Contest Week 115: The things I feared most!

Greetings My wonderful Steemians, Am sure you all are good. In this post, I’ll be sharing 5 of my deepest fears, reflecting on whether they’ve come true, and my thoughts on the belief that what we fear most often becomes our reality. It’s a personal reflection and thought, drawn from real experiences and emotions.

5 things you feared most to ever happen to you and why you are afraid of it?

We all have fears, some rooted in past experiences, others born from the unknown. Today, I’m opening up about the five deepest fears I carry, how some have already come to reality, and my personal thoughts on the idea that what we fear most eventually happens. This is a vulnerable one, but it’s my truth and am willing to share it.

1. Losing my mom or loved ones
My mom isn’t just a parent to me — she’s my anchor, my comfort, and the person who has seen me at my worst and loved me unconditionally. The thought of waking up one day and realizing she’s gone terrifies me. It isn’t just about losing a parent, it’s losing a part of my peace, my home, and my sense of safety.The pain of losing those close to me is something that leaves a lasting ache. This is because it is more than just absence, it’s losing pieces of my heart and memories that shaped who I am.

2. Losing My Relationship With God
This fear runs very deep. My relationship with God has always been my source of growth and guidance. This is because the idea of drifting away from Him and losing my spiritual grounding feels like losing the very light and force that helps me navigate life.

3. Falling In Love With The Wrong Person
Love feels like a promise, but also a gamble. I have always feared trusting my heart with someone who doesn’t recognize my worth and someone who gives less than I’m willing to give. The idea of opening up, being vulnerable, then waking up to betrayal or indifference feels like a slow heartbreak even before it happens and the healing process is not always guaranteed to be complete.

4. Failing to Meet My Academic Expectations
I’ve always seen education as a bridge to my dreams. Falling short academically isn’t just low grades — it’s feeling like I failed the people who believed in me, failing my own potential and wasting the resources that brought me there. And this is because of the anxiety that comes from thinking: “What if I didn't do well enough?”. It's faced in each step of the way.

5. Not Achieving Financial Stability
Money isn’t everything, but it’s often comfort, security, and independence. The fear of being stuck, struggling to make ends meet, or being unable to help loved ones when they need me is heartbreaking. It’s the fear that hard work might never translate into freedom or stability.

Did any of these things you feared ever happened to you?

Losing My Loved Ones — YES.
This became my reality. I lost my mum and her absence left a permanent gap in my life — a kind of emptiness that no one else can truly fill.

Falling in Love with the Wrong Person — YES.
I’ve experienced heartbreak due to the trust and love that wasn’t reciprocated. It taught me painful but important lessons about boundaries and self-worth.

Losing My Relationship with God — YES.
At one point, I drifted. I became distant in prayer, disconnected from His word, and overwhelmed with guilt and situations. It wasn’t intentional, but life pulled me away. The silence in that season was painful, and I felt it deeply. I was lost but didn't want to be found. Rebuilding that connection has taken time, grace, and honesty.

Failing to Meet My Academic Expectations — NOT YET
I’m still on course, though the pressure remains. There’s always the fear of underperforming, but so far, I’ve managed to keep up. Still pushing on with faith, resilience and grace

Never Achieving Financial Stability — NOT YET.
I’m not where I want to be financially, and sometimes that feels unsettling. But I also remind myself that stability is a journey, not a race and Slow and steady wins the race.

What's Your Stand On The Saying That the Things You Fear Most Will Eventually Happen?

I believe that sometimes, fear doesn’t just warn you, it foreshadows. The fears that cling the hardest often seem to find a way, especially if left unaddressed, embraced or ignored. But I also hold onto hope. I believe in growth, resilience, and the power of choices. Not all fears must become reality. With self-awareness and faith in better days, some fears can be avoided or healed from.
Fear shapes us, but it doesn’t have to define us.

THANKS FOR ENGAGING IN MY POST💋❤️

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