Marriage 50/50; Fair or Impossible?

wuddi (69)Verified| Memberin Steem4Nigeria • 3 months ago

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Do you believe husbands and wives should share bills, house chores, and responsibilities 50/50? Why or why not?

When young family is build they usually two people decided to live together and function like one body due to their love, their support to each other, willing to care after each other. If these two people wife and husband are one unit then they should act as one person and share the responsibilities, the daily tasks, their commitments together. It is something that people can identify what is better done by who and also if they really wish and love to do that. They have to be open when discussing that and respect the decision one of another. Only then everything will work well and the harmony will be there. In my opinion a couple should share everything together and hopefully that will make the family strong.

In your opinion, does “equal” always mean “fair” in marriage? Explain.

I do not know if “equal” should be used in family life. I think if two people love and respect each other then they will everything they can do without counting who did what and how much was done by each person. I believe the real good relationship has love as basis, usually each of person will be keen to do as much for other one as possible. One will try to get over the tasks or even to help out with the task if the other already finished with own. Trying to divide the tasks between and also even if to try to do it equally make cause crack in the relationship. So please do not think much about who did what just think about how to sort out something together.

If one partner earns more money or has a busier job, should the other take on more house chores?

It is normal that when one family member is earning much then the person will spend more time at work and understandably will have less time for anything at home. Also, I can imagine that a person will be very tired when coming back from work. After hours of working a person would love to have relaxed evening at home. If the other person is at home, they again it is understandably normal that this person will be doing shopping, preparing the food and also need to take over the paperwork for paying the bills, some financial stuff. Maybe also look after children, organising everything for school, their clubs, sports for children, maybe meet up with their friends.

What are practical ways couples can balance responsibilities without feeling stressed or unfairly treated?

I think couple should always ask each other if each are happy with some responsibilities. They definitely need to make sure that if one is free and another has a lot to do, they to offer help, it is always good to finish something together so that both can have some rest together later. The couple should speak to each other and discuss anything that they are worried about. They should discuss any problem and be open, ask for help when one needs and offer help.

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