I've come up with about fifty questions in such a short space. I've never thought about that question. My free thinking. Sometimes it's not in direct line with what most people think or are swayed by. I have my own interpretation of what it should be.
I've been very unconcerned with the established laws and conventions on this subject. Because a true relationship is based on both parties freely wanting to belong.
Sacred laws, or not, matter little if one of the parties isn't interested or doesn't want to continue. It's not an imposed bond; love belongs, it's maintained through respect. They are two very different worlds that must flow in the same direction or try hard to do so. We can make mistakes, we can improve, we can grow. A relationship cannot belittle either party, it cannot humiliate in any way. The woman is the delicate one; she must feel protected, loved. It's good to have someone who listens to us, to have a recognizable figure in old age. Lies should not exist.

It's normal to have doubts, to miss them when they're not around; I think it all depends on one's mood. It's very human to doubt. All thoughts beyond the people we love or care about matter little. We only have one life. And in the long run, loneliness awaits, so while we can, we should surround ourselves with those who love and appreciate us.
Those who don't want to be in our lives always have the option to leave. Suffering is human, but it's not forever; you shouldn't suffer for those who don't want to be in our circle. We have root friends and leaf friends. The difference is significant.
The writer José Martí had a very profound concept about this: a spiritual and emotional union that goes beyond the superficial, based on respect, complicity, and commitment to life and the struggle.