Next to that why use others to make yourself look good? I don't believe that's the way. Why force those in need to smile, look happy, and say something positive while you know whatever they gave is by far not enough, and your head is filled with worries? Why say "thank you" if that gift isn't the first thing you had in mind or would do to solve a few problems?

You hit the nail! Very true. I felt it that way. Like I'm being forced to play along.