Sorry to see the disappointment, but, perhaps there is a lesson in life.

I grew up with two older brothers who bullied me, and,4 younger brothers who fight a lot and sometimes ganging up against me.

I never got any attention let alone birthday parties. So, wishes for anything for my birthday started with - does ANYONE know when is my birthday?

One day when I was about 13, I wanted to see if ANYONE knew that I was not home - I went to an amusement park with some friends till late - after dinner time.

And that was answered with a yes - my father found out and chased me with a stick around the dinner table but I was faster than him.

My wish - not a birthday wish - from then on was to make something of myself all with what I have and not take money from my father as my other brothers and the (youngest) sister did.

There is a saying: "hope for the best, but, prepare for the worst!"

The lesson is the last part of the saying: always be prepared for the worst that could happen!

There is another saying - the Murphy's Law:
"Anything that can go wrong, will [go wrong], at the worst possible time and place."

Perhaps it might help by telling my story - my first birthday remembered and given was by my cousins on my 60th birthday - the one and only birthday party that I have ever had.
Another lesson is in the first part of the saying: "Hope for the best" - it does not say "wish for the best". That way of mindset will not result in disappoinments especially later in life - why? Because there will be many many disappointments in life, so, stop wishing for anything. Just hope and be prepared for disappoinments.

All the best!