SEC16W32: Raising boys and girls

Thank you Steem For Ladies! You have given me a chance to express my views on "Should boys and girls be raised in the same way?" As a proud father of a girl, I invite @lirvic, @patjewell, @bellana, and @dexsyluz for their reviews.

ᴹʸ ᵈᵃᵘᵍʰᵗᵉʳ ᵐʸ ᵖʳᵒᵘᵈ ᵉᵈᶦᵗᵉᵈ ᶦⁿ ᵖᵃᶦⁿᵗ

When I hear, "You are a boy, you shouldn't play with kitchen toys, come on, you're a girl; your room should be pink," It brings a strange feeling to my mind.

And what turns me off when I hear, "Oh, come on, he is a boy, so it's fine if he beats his friends and peers," or "Oh, Dazy, what are you going to do with boxing gloves? These are meant for boys."

These phrases show the difference between boys and girls, and we feel they are common gender-specific questions, but in the future, these small questions will surface in a bigger, more gender-specific scenario! These questions bring up the difference between boys' and girls' mindsets, and they start believing that boys are different from girls or that they have a superior place in society.

ˢʰᵉ ˡᵒᵛᵉˢ ᵇˡᵘᵉ ˡᶦᵏᵉ ᴵ ᵈᵒ

At least this is true in the majority of societies in the world if you leave a few advanced societies apart. The result is that the male ego takes supreme, and the boys start considering the girls as second to them. Let's remove this thought from the minds of not only the boys in particular, and the beginning should commence with the parents. We will have to make a change in our mindset to stop gender discrimination. It will happen only if we think in terms of gender-neutral parenting; otherwise, it will go on as it's been going on for centuries.

We shall have to understand that women are not inferior to their male counterparts, but if you ask me, they are superior to men and able to multitask, which is rare in men. Let's accept the fact that we expect that our spouse will be an earning member, but when it comes to giving her equal rights, just look at the way she was brought up. So I believe that we shall have to give her equal rights right from her childhood and stop telling her what she must or must not do unless, of course, you see something seriously wrong with her, but that goes for boys and girls.

I believe in gender equality, and I have raised my only child, a girl, the same way, I can proudly say that she is more successful than most of her classmates or even coworkers. The boys and girls should get equal opportunities right from the beginning, and we as parents should stop telling the girls what's good or bad for them. What I am trying to say at this point is that we should bring about a change in our mindset to change the world for half the population of the world.

ˢʰᵉ ᵃⁿᵈ ʰᵉʳ ᵐᵒᵐ ʷᵉᵃʳ ᵖᶦⁿᵏ ᵇᵘᵗ ˢᵉˡᵈᵒᵐ

Let me give you an example. Supposing your son wants a doll or a kitchen set, what difference would it make? Or maybe your daughter is interested in playing cricket or boxing! I can see several girls successfully doing these two games, and they are not inferior to their male counterparts in these sports! I remember when my daughter was 8 and she wanted to buy a racing car and a doll at the same time from the toyshop. And now look at the scenario when my wife, a former teacher herself, stopped her from buying the car. At that point, I had to intervene and allow her to buy both. Today, my daughter drives a BMW and an Audi and is a proud owner of these two cars.

Let's accept that if we allow our children, regardless of their gender, to go through complexes, whether inferiority or superiority, if you let them do what they can do best, that will help them improve their capabilities. Let me add that if you don't differentiate them gender-specifically, they will develop self-confidence, which ultimately helps them grow in stature.

They will never think in terms of whether they are boys or girls and will grow naturally according to their capabilities. Such children will become confident and successful future citizens of the world without any habitation in their minds.

ˢʰᵉ ᶦˢ ᵐʸ ᵖʳᵒᵘᵈ

Let me add here that in a household where parents talk in terms of gender, the social atmosphere is like the mom is the kitchen queen or the dad earns the money, so he is superior to the mom. Mom will do the laundry and cook, and Dad will go to the club in the evening. If you see this happening in any household, consider that they are asking for doomsday. I believe that children raised in a gender-neutral household and society are always more tolerant, happy, and cut out for bigger things.

I will conclude the topic: children brought up in gender-neutral houses make better spouses and better world citizens.

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