Greetings dear steemian ladies, I'm excited to be in your midst . I want to use this opportunity to appreciate
@ruthjoe for always wanting the voice of ladies to be heard by organizing this weekly contest that gives all the ladies avenue to air out that which is bothering them whereas seeking solutions if need be.
In this week contest I want to share a story that requires solution because the person involved are in need of solutions so please I implore all ladies to chip in their contribution that will bring possible solution to this troubled soul.
What Happened?
A woman in my neighborhood gave her only daughter to go stay with a renounced Rev that will be ordained as a Bishop this December, according to my neighbor the girl started staying when she was small and the Rev is very good to her, sending her to school from primary to secondary and now the girl gained admission into the university. The Rev whom she stayed with is married with four children ,so what happened was that the Rev's wife is very stubborn and sometimes embarrasses the man, aside from embracement she has denied the husband from making love with her for six months ..... Hmmmmmmmm 😩😩
Having starved the husband for six months without making love him ,the man was troubled and restless,so one night he now went to this little girl that is about 19 years and begged her to allow him have his way, initially the girl said no and pleaded him not to do this but the man kept begging and knelt down to beg her,so the girl later agreed and the Man have His way.....😭😭😭😭😭😭😭,
Source Facing difficult temptation
To cut it short after two months the girl did not see her period and she was in great tears 😭 😭 😢 on how to explain this to the parents,as days goes by she couldn't bear it anymore,she ran to the village to narrate to her mum what has be fallen her, having explained everything to the mum, the mum called the bishop that she wants to see him privately and the man agreed and fix date for her,so when the met each other the woman told him what had happened to her daughter the Rev didn't deny but accepted what he did. All this that happened the wife in question ❓ is not aware of what's going on in her marriage.
Source
The wife of the Rev unaware of what is ongoing in the her home because of ignorance and stubbornness
Now the woman who owns the girl said that she doesn't want her to do abortion and the Rev is begging the parents not to expose him because of;
• His position in the church
• The ordination that is coming up this December.
The woman confided with me for solution and in the midst of my confusion of not knowing what to advise her I decided to share it here for opinions and possible solution
Source Asking myself what a terrible situation
What I have learnt?
Truly speaking, have learn a lot from this particular incidence that just occurs
• I learnt to always settle differences with my husband when I'm married,to be submissive has a wife.
• I learnt that every marriage is open to attack so is therefore left for me to take full control of my home, what happened might be that the enemy what to use that to scatter their marriage and their ministry
• I learnt to be prayerful in season and out of seasons and always trusting God for better marriage if there's anything like that.
Thank You For having me in this week contest, inviting my dear ladies to participate are @zoyabhatti06 @comfortpeter @dave-hanny @eveetim
All I see in this story is a man of God who lacks self discipline. If this so called bishop wanted a woman, why can't he go to a mature person? I'm suspecting that's not his first time.
Abomination! Your oga left his room to yours and beg you to let him sleep with you, because he knelt down to beg you, you allowed him. So simple? what a lie. That can be told to a child and not an adult. I'm sorry to say that everything is wrong about the whole thing. Why is his wife denying him love? What has he done wrong as a preacher? What is he preaching on the pulpit and what is his wife admonishing women with?
I guess it's not a true life story.
This story is very true and have been in the same shoes but the only thing that helped me was that I was more mature and I had finished university by then, I understood that defiling my madam s bed is and abomination so I stood my ground.
Let me brief you a little of my own, I stayed with my madam for years and I went to university in their house so while waiting for service my madam and the husband had issues, the husband is a senior pastor but they stay in different states and usually visit so during that time they had issues the wife travel to go meet him but him he was also coming back to Uyo were I stay with children grown up children so he refuses to eat since he came and I was wondering fast forward to one night I had locked everywhere and went to sleep by 11pm he came and call me and asked why have I not lock the front door, I told him that I locked everywhere,so in my curiosity I stood up and were to check unknown to me he was the one that open the door I locked it and started going back my room he said I should come and sit down that he want to tell me something
Hmmmmm,my dear sister,he said that he want to commit suicide because of what he is going through with the wife and that I should allow him free himself
E...wooh, fear grip me and I started begging him and he beg me too and he further said I should name any amount of money that he will give me.......has he was talking he took me to the parlour and the children room are very close,
My dear sister, I didn't know what to do I started preaching that his the Man of God and God help me to remember the consequences of unwanted pregnancy,he added it that I shouldn't let anyone hear about this, after much pleading and begging I went to my room I refused letting him have His way.
I nearly got depressed staying in that house with them,the wife was not aware and they children I continue to stay until I went for service.
My dear sister things are happening except you are not in that shoe you will not believe, I once face it and I believe.
Temptation does not look at the anointing or the position you are, just to ask the Lord lead me not into temptation.
Thank u
The story is real life
It's true things are really happening. I'm just wondering anyway, why will a pastor and his wife have issues that warrant him to go beg for his house help to help him.
It's not actually a new story anyway, I just feel that teenagers these days are smarter than before. God forbid me in that situation because I'll make sure I record and cast him to the world. A threat of that will slap the devil out of his mind.
It is well my dear. That's why people must be careful at all times not to give room to the devil to use them.
My dear, it's easier said than action because people will also blame u at the tale end.
Our prayers should be that God should help us in times of difficult temptation not to fall prey to the devil 👿
God will help us Amen 🙏.
Even the Bible says "flee" from evil. There are situations actions are better than words. In this scenario, the ideal action is to "flee" as every strong-willed person. Explaining and trying to "change" the other party's mind only makes one vulnerable. And that's not a pleasant place to be.
Hmmmmmmmm, it is well my dear sister.
May God send help to this generation because every blessed day thing are getting worse, some girls are getting out of hand
Saludos gracias por compartir tu participación con nosotros. Exitos.
Imagine him being more concerned about his title in church than the shame before God. Appalling! Probably the girl in question wasn't a virgin or she had something to gain from laying with her boss because I don't see how such plea cannot be turned down. Maybe he should had used the energy to beg his wife.
Either ways, for adultery, the man has no right to remain a minister and the girl, she can have her baby after all 19 years old is no longer a minor.
Yea, His concerned is about ordination not even minding the sin he committed
My own suggestion for the girl was for her to deliver the baby and the mother will take care of the child while she continue in her education, though is difficult but she has to take responsibility of her actions
For me, that would be indulging her sins. Let her take full responsibility of her child and actions, after she consented to the affair. If she wishes to continue with school she can still do that.
It is funny how adults would engage in activities and expect an unnatural outcome.
First, you have an affair with someone who clearly is not your legal partner and you are shocked to see the consequences of your actions.
So, while engaging in the act without contraceptives, what were they expecting? Teddy Bears?
Also, it is highly ridiculous to hear an adult blame another for their actions. That's narcissistic. There are better ways to communicate with your spouse when there is a conflict, especially when you are aware of your reputation and prestige.
To the 19 year-old girl, I have nothing to say to her. I hope she is financially stable and ready for motherhood because it isn't a bed of roses. She should quit playing victim. If she wasn't scared of pregnancy, at least she should have been worried about HIV/AIDS, herpes virus or gonorrhoea.
There is even another one - Syphilis that can stay in ones body for over 10 years. It results in madness if left untreated. I hope she considered this as well and kept enough money to run tests.
When our parents advice us to avoid some activities, it's not only so we can share a stool with the creator in heaven but so we can live a happier and fulfilling life.
PS I'm taking my time to share my thought on this hypothetical issue for learning purposes.
My dear we will keep learning, but the best way is to always be on a safe side, maybe she has learnt her lesson which is everlasting story ,she will not forget this in a hurry
I just hope she's fine.
Some mistakes shouldn't break us.
She will be fine, just that it shaking her to be stable and learn from her mistakes