Why is it so hard for us to let go?
These days of pandemic have served for definitely very deep reflections and even on a psychological level it has made us meet ourselves. The reduction of our activities and the quarantine have perhaps allowed us to confront certain weaknesses that we would have been avoiding.
Personally, I believe that emotions are determinant in our behavior and we must learn to recognize and manage them, perhaps even accept them. Cognitive education, in my experience, has been much easier to manage than emotional education and it is incredible how the latter cements the other.
It is incredible how, in the presence of an event, accident or conflict, we sometimes decrease our productivity, because our mood collapses Have you ever experienced this? Letting go seems to be one of the most difficult things in our existence, and has been the subject of research by many specialists in the field.
Jorge Bucay already said "every time something goes away, it leaves room for what follows" but the same fear of starting to live what we do not know stops us and leads us to be in life cycles that always repeat themselves. Attachment has been extensively studied and related to two hormones, oxytocin and prolactin, closely associated with women, pregnancy and parenting.
Are women more attached? It would be really good to investigate it, but it is true that our life is surrounded by deep hormonal changes. The dependence on our upbringing, because we mature so late compared to other living beings could also be one of the causes and it is no coincidence that these two hormones are involved.
Letting go hurts! And many of us have felt it. Leaving a friend, emigrating, separating from a marriage even if it is no longer working, letting our children grow independently, abandoning a job that doesn't add up, stopping eating something that hurts us, and even allowing ourselves to live experiences, sometimes it costs us too much.
When we reach a comfort zone, we generally believe that it will remain unchanged, but daily life is full of changes and processes that sometimes make us have to evolve. Sometimes, it hurts us to not be indispensable in some field, but life must go on, and time will make us recognize that maybe it was the best thing for us.
Situations will pass and will stop hurting, and you will remember with great strength the facts. You will be able to determine what you have learned and from there life will not be the same ...
Hi @lynnmargullys
Wow this is really complex "every time something goes away, it leaves room for what's next" but the same fear to start living what we don't know stops us and leads us to be in life cycles that always repeat", I say complex because indeed to all at some point in our lives it has happened to us, and we find ourselves lost without direction, it is an issue of NOT APPEAL as you say, but it is something that I personally still can't get to. Excellent post.
Best regards, be well.
That's right! It hasn't been easy to write about it, but I have had to let go of situations that made me very happy but that were impossible.
Greetings @lynnmargullys, it is certainly a complex approach that leaves us Jorge Bucay, stating "every time something goes away, leaves room for what follows" but the same fear to start living what we do not know stops us and leads us to be in cycles of life that always repeat".
No matter how much we prepare ourselves mentally and physically when the emptiness of the loss of someone or leaving a place and starting from scratch comes, it generates a sense of fear that invades us and immobilizes us before the circumstance, I believe it is a natural process of our biological system. Thank you for your contribution
That's right my dear @madridbg the fear of living new situations is always latent; however most of the time it turns into new opportunities Thank you for your visit! I loved it!
Definitely the pandemic has made our brains work differently, our senses alert and our susceptibility at the surface. losing important people and environment makes us more alert and think about our lives, and appreciate it more.
thank you for your beautiful and nourishing work.
hello @lynnmargullys,
one of the things that people do not understand well is that we are emotional beings, this means that emotions play a fundamental role in our lives, learning how to manage them is the key to a good life, on the other hand changes are always painful for everyone, that is why the brain in its desire to protect itself prevents you from letting things go through a series of hormones which cause emotional pain.
It really is difficult, but when it is a goal previously set by ourselves, we must know that it is necessary to deal with the pain of a departure in order to meet our goals, we can not look back and keep thinking about what has been left on the road, it is necessary to overcome.
Greetings and thank you for presenting this motivational post.
I'm delighted that you like it mate @carlos84, life is continually on the move and as you put it we must continue to ... Everything happens!
I really enjoyed reading through your article, it would be really amazing if we can ever control our emotions, I believe we can just hide it or run away from it, but we can't change it when we are sad even the things we enjoy might not be joyful anymore.
We are attached to many things that we love or used to love before, things that might still hurt us but as humans we don't think for the future always, letting go might hurt a lot but it's sometimes a way better decision than hanging on.
Thanks for sharing this great article!
What a nice contribution... it makes me feel that I'm not the only one who thinks like this... life is a sway of emotions and if instead of denying them we recognise and manage them, maybe we'll do better... a hug.
Separation from the things we love can be highly difficult but it is most often the best thing for us to do, irrespective of how difficult it is to let go it is most likely the best thing to happen to us.
letting go is also an act of love, above all an act of self-love... everything you say is what we really need to think about.
Hmm quite inspiring, for me time helps as well. Thanks for sharing
Thank you for this valuable contribution. Fear brings us down and the past is behind us ... so let's take strength!
Good day buddies.
Life is always up and down, so why are you worried when you are at the bottom; the next place is up. In order to succeed in life, you have to forget your past mistakes, do not give up, if you want your life to be meaningful an believe you can.
Thanks for the post.
Thank you for this valuable contribution. Fear brings us down and the past is behind us ... so let's take strength!
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