I find it relevant that most of the time being quiet is more peaceful. It may hurt at first but you will find peace one day because you know that you didn't hurt them by staying quiet when they were screaming. I think that's a good part of humanity. But being quiet in situations where people think you're upset is sometimes good and sometimes bad. The attention you get is valuable in every way. But yeah, you definitely never want attention. Sometimes you want to look quiet like you're quiet.