I lost myself trying to keep everyone happy.

Good morning friends, how are you all? I hope you are all doing well.

As I walk through life, I have come to understand one thing very clearly, you cannot be liked by everyone if you want to. Earlier, I used to think that if I treated everyone well and stood by everyone, then everyone would consider me their own person. But time has taught me that relationships are not just about desire; it takes feelings and mutual respect.

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Many times, we want to give our all to people. We stand by someone in their sorrow, smile at someone's happiness, and even give up our own interests for someone. But still, I see that some people keep their distance. Then it feels very bad, I feel like I am at fault somewhere. But gradually,y I have come to understand that not all relationships are in our hands. Some relationships are better at a distance.

There was a time in my life when I wanted to keep everyone happy. It felt like no one should be angry with me, no one should misunderstand me. But this would create a kind of fatigue inside me. Because it is actually impossible to win the hearts of all people. No matter how hard we try, some people will understand us, and some people will never understand.

Now I have learned to recognize my true self. Those who are by my side in bad times, those who understand my mistakes, those who accept me as I am, not to change me, are my true selves. Even though these people are not very many, their presence brings peace to life.

I have understood one more thing — it is not right to try to make someone your own by losing yourself. Because if we lose our naturalness, then that relationship will not last long. Rather, if we are ourselves, those who are true to us will come to us by themselves.

Now I no longer try to be everyone's own. Rather, I try to be a good person, to be honest, and to value my own peace. Because at the end of the day, our biggest ally is ourselves. Being good to ourselves is the most important thing.

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Life has taught me — accepting that not everyone will be our own is true maturity. This reduces suffering, reduces expectations, and increases love for ourselves. We then understand that it is not the number of relationships, but the depth of relationships that matters.

In the end, I would like to say one thing - there are only a few people in life who are truly yours, and that is enough. It is much more important to keep your own mind calm than to win everyone's hearts. Because when we are ourselves, we become the most authentic.