"the rule of the world is not to speak ill of the dead" A lot of people hold that opinion but I always thought it was alright to be honest about who people were and what our relationships are with them. No matter how hard we try not to be, we are all flawed and I don't think it is an insult to acknowledge that.

Like you point out, people are complicated. And it is difficult to come to terms with losing them if we don't acknowledge that complexity.

I'm glad to hear that you are feeling a little better. I know it is hard and it takes time but you seem like a strong person.