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RE: You Will Live in Misery if You Love Too Little
we are who we surround ourselves by for sure. how are you transacting with another is so key. It might not be a pretty way to look at it ...but i think we are each transacting with each other for a handful of core reasons.
we seek....acceptance, love, learning, money, hunger, sex, appreciation, security..... we transact with each other searching for various combinations of these reasons. sometimes we can just see right through why someone is talking to us. sometimes we just get it wrong though.
the trick, as i believe you are getting at in your post...is be open...let experience and love in...even if wary.
thanks @diabolika ....for being fierce and open.
This is what happens most of the time, people get it wrong. If you have a painful childhood, bad experience with people in the past, you will see everyone as a threat when you become an adult. You will get people wrong which is quite expected as we are what we are based on our childhood/ the environment that shaped us. It is hard to understand how people are if we didn't experience their pain. If you have a pampered and well-fed childhood in your well-pampered society, then you won't understand what I mean.
pain and experience have there own form of treachery... one persons paper cut is another persons paraplegia. we are selfish by nature and absorb first into our own stories. money or not, pampered or not.
it is possible to step away from the story. not easy...but eventually with work and much introspection we can escape both the silver spoon or neglected start. not that many do...but it is possible
Yes, we would always be absorbed in our own stories like you said. For that I am selfish - thanks. Everything we read is all about us. My stories bring food to my mouth if that is ok for you? It's not only selfishness but survival too - if you know what that means.... :) It's hard for me to worry about what you think or the others if I am hungry. When I'm full, then I'll hear about what you say about this thing called selfishness bla bla. Again, people have no clue. It's hard to give advice to people we don't really know personally or their pain, so in that case, we can just remain silent. Thanks. :)
words and thoughts are so funny in there interpretation. I read through your words several times and i feel confused as to whether we are agreeing or if you are saying i should remain silent because i dont know you.
doesnt really matter either way. just makes me laugh as we talk about not ever really knowing others.
for the sake of clarity on my part. i am talking in a big picture and not saying anything personal. there is no judgement in my words.... my intention is an expansion of ideas that your words brought out for me. these subjects of what makes us into the humans we are....this interests me...so enjoy exploring my own thoughts. sorta cracking open my own self absorption and ideas and then re-examining. i sense a similar way that you deal with your ideas....i obviously dont know you...so its just my feeling.
i just personally dont want to be a person who is too fixed on my ideas. i want to be pushed and shifted....to be flexible.
steemit should have an up-sandwich button. i could start sending you half sandwiches when i like your posts. 😻 😹