I thought of your first sentence. We live in countries where you are safe in your own home and you do not have to be afraid of a knock on the door and for the secret service that takes you to prison and tortures you for your beliefs or actions. Of course, there can be a burglar or something similar, but I mean the security of a more or less democratic country. I did not mention this in my post, but when I read your comments, I figured out what a blessing it is that we do not have to be afraid of something like that.
We also have many refugees in the Netherlands. Many people help them to adapt (Dutch is also a difficult language) but there are also people, even a political party, who want to get them all out of the country because 'they steal our jobs and live off welfare'. Crazy, of course, but they really believe it and do not want to share our relative wealth with people in need. No, they call them rapists and thieves.
They do not believe that these people, like you said, are just like you and me and that we want to meet nice, helpful people in the same circumstances.