Good question, thank you!

Success is defined in every experienced moment of the present existence. Yesterday I had a consultation with a young man who had not yet orientated himself professionally, but had his first experiences in the working world. He used words like "I've been jerked around" and "I won't take it anymore!". I said, "These are the words of a victim." Then I raised my hand and pressed against his arm. He just let it happen without giving me any resistance. I said, "what did you find out? .... "And you didn't put any pressure on me. That's what people do every day. They're pushing your boundaries. If you let them, they'll push until it hurts."

He was shocked! That was my intention. He said: "But this is not the case in the culture I come from!" I said: "Great! it's good that you can see it so clearly. Everybody does it every day, every minute. It's normality. It's not always malicious. You do it, I do it. People are like that.
Learn to have good experiences in your life. Learn to negotiate. If you fail in your negotiation, this is a good experience that you will take with you next time."

We went very well and deeply in this spontaneous consultation hour, with which we both did not expect.

I have accepted my authority at this hour as self-evident and that I can lead this young man. I told him some uncomfortable truths, but with a positive basic feeling that he already knows about it and just wants it confirmed. Most young people are very open to someone who knows what they are doing and who is not afraid of them.

I said: "A day is a good day when sixty to seventy percent of it has gone well and you tolerate the rest of resistance, uncomfortable experiences and stumbling blocks being paved. There is no right to freedom from interference."

For me, success is therefore not a definition but an experience on which I can exert influence. It's a lifelong process. I can only know what it is when I have the experience of failure.

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P.S. thinking in terms of verbs not nouns. ;-)