Embracing the Solitude

in #life6 years ago

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Wanna go to a movie in a spur of a moment and don’t have anyone to go with? Go alone! Just do it! It’s not like you can talk with your friend when you are watching a movie. Or if you do, you are a fucking asshole and should go home to watch the movie if you want to chat while watching it.

I’ve wanted to see the Ocean’s 8 for a while now, mainly because I’m fangirling Rihanna. I was just hanging out at home alone, like I always do, and felt like I should leave the apartment every once in a while. Going to a movie alone is my way of acting like I’ve done something social and normal. Though I don’t think I’m fooling anyone...

Most of the time I really do not want to be with anyone, I’d rather spend time by myself. Sure I feel lonely at times, and would like to have a partner to share some things with, and cuddle, but most of the time, I’m fine alone.

I’d rather feel a little lonely than have meaningless fake friendships that don’t really give me anything, but more so drain my energy. Sure I can go out at times and have fun, but it’s always a risk. Quite often I feel like I need to fake interest and I’d rather be at home doing something than having a coffee with a friend. Of course there are the rare occasions when I have a lot of fun and don’t want it to end, but like said, it’s rare. The odds are not in my favour, so I tend to entertain myself alone.

Today I let a movie entertain me, because even though I watch movies and series all the time at home, it’s a different experience going to the movie theather to see something. I have a tendency to multitask a lot at home, so I’m not really paying full attention to the movie. When there is something I think might be really good, I go to see it in a theater so I’m kind of forcing myself to really pay attention and appreciate the movie.

A few words about the movie itself, it was a basic Ocean’s heist movie, but with a gorgeous female cast. Nothing too spectacular plot wise, but I liked it. The events happened in a Met Gala, so a lot of fashion was incorporated to the movie, and that I like. The movie is definitely directed more for the female audience with a lot of female empowerment elements, but I think it wasn’t too feministic and was quite sexy in parts.

Have you ever gone to a movie by yourself and if so, what did you go and see?

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I saw that movie on Tuesday! I liked it too. Strong female roles, sexy people, etc. Like you said, more for a female audience but I think there isn't too much of that kind of action movies for women.

I haven't went to a movie (either by myself or with someone) in over 20 years. The reasons are many. You have mentioned a couple of them:
a. I don't do fake very well
b. Friends will be a needless drain on my energy. I don't want to hurt their feelings, but I know I would turn them down when they want to go out or do something. It is better just have acquaintances.
c. I would have to go during a daytime showing where very few people are watching. I don't want people near me when I watch.
d. People just bother me, for various reasons. Not everyone, of course. Some people are great, especially if they are positive people. But the chances of that not good.

There are other things but you get the idea. People suck. Mostly. Not intentionally, but they are not who I want to spend a lot of time with. Exceptions will know who they are, because I will tell them. It is a small group.

I totally understand where you come from, I’m the same, just maybe not as extreme.

I tried going on an odd hour where I assumed wouldn’t be many other people, and even checked the reserved seats and there were only a few so I thought it would be really peaceful. Turns out the theater was maybe third of the way reserved. But all the seats around me were empty. It was a pretty good croud this time, though one man was snoring the latter half of the film 😅

As long us we have internet, we can be social on our own terms.

Wish I could do the movies all by myself every time... Last time a horrible whale was sitting next to me with her noise-cancelling headphones laughing her huge ass off and ruining the whole movie experience. All this, even after I repeatedly asked her to behave. Maybe my next home will provide the correct setting for a solitary movie experience... xD

Noice cancelling headphones in a movie theater?

Yeah. Guess she didn't want to be exposed to noise or overly loud sound effects. But seemed like a crazy cow, so can't really tell xD

Maybe she was sensitive to sounds, but that just sounds really weird all together. I’m sorry you had to go through that 😝

I love going to the movies alone :) when I did my practical stuntman studies in Stockholm a couple of months I went pretty often to the movies alone. A real good old action movie is what I prefer. Then I can sit there and let my little inner boy out in peace and just suck it all in!

You have done some interesting things. Show us a trick, entertain us!

Excuse me but ”your inner boy”, I think it’s well out there most of the times 😁

Thank you for the best compliment there is to get! 🍻 I will probably never grow up......
In the begginning of year 2019 you will have the chance to see some stunts ;)

I assume you are going to be in a movie, can you tell me the name of it or is it still a secret?

It's a secret ;)

I don't like it when people keep secrets from me 😤

Oh shit. I can fax it to you and to you only.📠

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Awweee alone in the cinema ? :(

I haven't done that EVER, but it's probably the superior way to watch a movie.

BTW, thanks for the heads up about the reboot. Sounds awful.

Not alone alone, there were other people there too. But how awesome would it be to be the only one in a huge theater. A girl can dream.

at times,yes.but most of the time i watch movies at home.

I had to go to the movies many times by myself and always enjoyed it :)

I haven't been to the movies in at leeeeeast 8 years.