WHO SHOULD WE HELP?
Hello steemit friends.
I really can not speak for everyone but for me, growing up as a kid, I was told that providing help for friends/neighbours or even to our enemies was something that we should always do but during my adolescence , I found out that everything, being it good or bad has an advantage and also a disadvantage.
But on a second thought, do you really think that providing help has anything to do with disadvantages?
There are always two sides of a coin, everything got the disadvantage tag attached to it.
At a point in my life, providing help did cost me a lot.
I went to get some food items in a public market and there I saw a man with his pitiful appearance asking for help, I felt for him tried to render him some help by giving him funds, I never knew his plans was to get hold of my smartphone.
It was after he left that I found out that my smartphone was missing, very painful I lost it trying to be of help.
It also happened to a friend of mine but this time it really went extreme.
The day was really sunny and lots of persons were at the ATM (AUTOMATED TELLER MACHINE) stand, trying to withdraw some cash and some came to make money transfer.
The queue was really long and everyone was so conscious of their time.
And just behind my friend, was a man "please i am having an issue with my ATM card, I can not withdraw money from the ATM with it and I can not go to the bank also to render my complains, which you know will take lots of time before the issue will be solved, so please can I transfer the money to your bank account so you can just help me do the withdrawal with your ATM card that was what he told my friend.
SO UNDERSTANDABLE!!!
No big deal with that right?
He did transfer the money and the withdrawal was made from my friend's account.
Few days later, my friend was called to make a report at the police station, which he did.
All said and done, he found out that he was accused of account fraud ( unauthorized withdrawal ), that a huge amount was transferred from an account to his own account without an authorised permission from the account owner.
So he remembered the incident that occurred at the ATM stand, the man he met there was an identity theft and needed another account to make transfer of the money with the stolen account details.
To the police officers, the story he told was seen as a fallacy. And that was how my friend was arrested for a crime he knew nothing about but trying to render help.
Check it out, he was trying to provide help but the disadvantage tag of it became the end result.
SO STEEMIT FRIENDS, AM NOT SAYING THAT PROVIDING HELP IS SOMETHING BAD BUT WE ALL SHOULD BE MINDFUL AND CAREFUL OF WHOM YOU PROVIDE HELP TO
I hope the experience was helpful and needful, feel free to resteem in order to share the experience because you really do not know who it might help tomorrow.
Being kind is one of the best sign of being a good human being and whoever try to take advantages of being innocent, it proves how bad the other person is 😞
yeah we got lots of bad persons who take advantage of our kindness and which is bad.
Thanks for reading through @anikaa
Great post. we really need to be cautious because a lot of people are just looking for how to take advantage of your kindness. It also affects the people who really need help. I was stranded once and i really needed to make a call so i asked someone i met on the road if i could call with his phone. i had to really convince him before he gave me because he had entered trouble while helping someone before.
what happened to your friend? was he later released?
He had to pay for the money before he was released, although he spent days in at the police station..too bad.
thanks for coming by @earthangel
When we are young we must learn some principles. We can't understand all the details regarding them. It's to early to have that understanding.
So, taking one step at a time.
Doing good is making us feel good. Also, helping somebody in need is a good thing. Maybe if you feel the same when you are helped it can give you that response. And also show you that if a simple thing can change other person life, why shouldn't you do it.
Also, we must learn that we don't need to expect something in return. It is not the reason for doing that.
Regarding your bad experience, i have them too. That's why you should be aware of this things at every simple gesture or requests from others. We live in a forced crowdy world and lot of people need to make a living from something. So, more people are thinking that sh*t can happen to them when exactly that is happening every day.
So, if you can't feel safe doing a thing, then don't do it. Especially if you were in this bad situation. And don't feel guilty.
Lot of time when i helped i was also in a bad position not being scammed. So it can be a bad thing just because you help, other people seeing things wrong.
So, after we grow up we can see this details. We will be alone and we must also take care of ourselves.
Don't trust what is too good to be true and also, help less when you feel uncomfortable or maybe when you are too sure... you understand what i say.
Hope you will not go again in this bad situation.
Cheers
This got smile on my face,you are right .
Thanks a lot @ilvstranger
Hope your friend is well now and hasn't lost faith in strangers. Glad that there are nice people too. But I have to say, there are a few things I don't wanna do to help, like giving away my smartphone for "a short call". Friends had bad experience with such things too.
@w0olf Although it really cost my friends a lot, he went to borrow money just to pay back,so that he can be released.
Too bad i don't think he "ll gonna help in his life again, that decision wasn't his fault though but i just hope he have a change in mind.
there are lots of persons that needs help but our bad experience try to stop us for doing so.
i hope we all gets over it.
truth is there is sense in what you just share, thanks for the share @hboi
you are welcome
Good point. Someone I don't really know on here just asked me to borrow $15,000 USD.... really. They have $300 in their wallet and told me that they would pay it back.
@papa-pepper Facial asking sometimes is saver but anyway let's just be mindful on cases like this.
This is a perfect cautionary tale that Definitely resonated with me. But on the other hand I've made peace with those who have wronged me as to not stay in the victims mentality they can create within those they have wronged. Stay vigilant. Do no harm but take no shit. Namaste 🙏
yeah you are right! @staceyjean
they take advantage of our kindness and which is bad
@hboi That is quite an unfortunate circumstance for your friend. I am a very helpful person as well; nevertheless, we all must exercise our intuition. If something does not feel right. more than likely it may not be right.
Sure you got a point there.
Thanks a lot @tyebrooks
Вот и часто моя проблема что я добрый
Its good @hboi
Thanks a lot