Stop Caring What Others Think!
We spend so much time worrying about what others think, Almost every decision that we make is guided by that.
What will my mom think?
What will grandma think?
What about my friends?
Peers, Coworkers? Strangers?
Have you seen those funny videos online of others playing pranks on strangers? It takes a lot of confidence to do that.
They don't care what others think.
You WILL get rejected sometimes, That's just how life is.
It Won't Matter In 5,10 Years.
When you embarrass yourself. It sucks bad. But nothing sucks more than all those opportunities you passed up because you were too concerned about the thoughts of others.
Those days where you didn't get what you wanted because you thought you'd be judged.
Most the time, People won't even remember the event. I realize that a lot now. People forget.
Or heck, If they didn't forget, Then laugh about it!
Most of the time people encourage you to do what is in THERE best interest rather than yours. When you go along with it, You may be passing up the opportunity of a lifetime. And in 5 - 10 years you may realize that you missed out on something that could have gotten you closer to your dreams.
Some People Don't Want You Successful
I hate to say it like this, But a lot of people are Haters.
They don't want to see you successful Or get what you want out of life Because their life sucks. They may quietly throw insults at you, Or find ways to sabotage your ability to get there.
This is a big reason why it's important to cut out those toxic people. But sometimes we may not even realize these people are toxic.
Trust Your Gut
Sometimes we know. We know without knowing that we know. It's the most bizarre thing ever at times When we have a gut feeling about something, and it somehow pans out how we predicted.
Sometimes people will tell you to know, Or they will encourage you not to do something, But you should do it anyways. Sometimes that's the right pathway to take.
Conclusion
People will ultimately pick whats best for themselves, Not you. When making decisions. And you should stop caring about what other people think Because it's just going to leave you without what you want.
So take that risk, Embarrass Yourself. It will pay off!
You post has very good points. I saw once this movie and there was this rule which I like very much. I call it “21 seconds”. When you are too shy or too embarrassed to do something you want to do, I use these 21 seconds to do what I wouldn’t normally do. I hope it’s not too confusing, but those 21 seconds if you use once in a while are nothing compared to years you live on this earth.
WOW! I've never heard of that! I love it. Most people can easily handle doing just 21 seconds and it really can be applied to most things.
I didn't understand this whatsoever can you explain this a little better or with a link that does. I'm interested thank you.
The 21 Second Rule The moment you have an instinct to act on a goal you must 21-20-...2-1 and physically move or your brain will stop you.
Use those 21 seconds for something you wouldn’t normally do. For example tell the girl, who doesn’t know you, but you like her “you are beautiful.”
The only one holding you back is yourself and how you are. When you recognise your potential and what is right and wrong, then you will truly start to shine.
Also, I want to care what YOU think because you're my FWEND! Hehe ;)
Kidding, about what you think, partly, I do like knowing what people think about my decisions etc, but I do things for me and not let others influence me.
AWWWww heheh! You are so sweet! But If I'm saying mean things to you! Don't listen LOL
I'm glad you don't let others influence you, That should help a lot.
Hehe like you could ever say anything mean to THIS sweet guy. ;)
If you always think of what others think of you, you will never live your life to your full potential.
This is your life and everyone has their own dreams and their own desires and believes, so you have to run your race otherwise others will run it for you and at the end we will regret it, because we did not live a happy life.
Great post @kaylinart.
Exactly! And regret Is such a hard pill to swallow!
I’m a shy guy, if I can call myself this way. That’s why I have a huge respect for people who do whatever is on their mind. I call them geniuses, they just don’t care what other people think. Mostly, these people are very successful, but crazy a bit as well.
Great post!
I'm the same way! It can be hard to push yourself out of your shell. But it's so worth it in the long run ;)
Very true... It’s time to stop caring about what other people think .No matter the “why” the truth is, at some point, we base our actions and decisions on how we anticipate other people will perceive us. As a result, we don’t always do the things we want to do, because we’re afraid of what others will think
Exactly! Thats a great summary hehe :)
If only everyone could see this.. Most people go as far as displeasing themselves just because others would be excited with the decision and this has resulted in many losing sight of what they really want... Happy to have you airing this..
Exactly! And it's so heartbreaking when that happens.
The pain can't even be explained... Expressing it is all u have left to do
I like your honesty and strong believe in not caring what other people think. But it has one downside, as you make an example of people pranking random strangers on the streets. If that is in a negative way, it's just lame to do and not really courageous.
Also in your point about people not wanting you to succeed is just people being jealouse if you were to succeed, as I have experienced. And they tend to just take the oposite side of the converstation.. just for the sake of conversation. That usually results in sort of 'talking you out of it' . But they are just friends trying to beware of you trying out crazy things.
Now that that's out of the way. I did enjoy reading your post. And clicking the follow button ;) Just wanted to be honest and I like your rough view on the world!
What you say is also true @mysted. Especially when pranksters mess with people's phobias - NEVER cool! And yes, there are times when relatives & friends mean only the best for your own interests, but life is never just simply black and white. Some pranks can be cool and funny and there are possibly jealous people who would give it a go by trying to talk you out of your own destiny.
I think the mean thinking of writing which attracts me " trust yourself and decide anytihing, when you make a desicion dont think what others say" . I completely agree with these words. thanks for good writing.
Well saying my friend we always have to see what we want
Yes exactly!
I super agree with you @kaylinart
Thank you