I'm sorry about the death of your mother. My wife and I suffered the loss of our second son at the end of last November. It ripped the heart out of the both of us. There isn't more than a couple of hours each day that either of us don't think about him and wish we could still hug him. We live in Japan and he moved to the States three years ago. I'm an American expat and my wife is a Korean national. I was happy that he decided to experience life in the country of his passport. He was doing fine and had took over a ramen shop in Oregon in June. He worked hard on making it a success, but then died in a single-car accident in November.

I visited him for two weeks in August. We had a great time together. Then my wife and I went back to Oregon in November to carry his ashes back to Japan. It sucked. I guess I wrote this to let you know that many of us grieve and that we feel your pain in this tragic time.