Put the glass down.

I read somewhere, it goes like this

Just hold a glass of water in your hand for a minute. What will happen to your hand? Nothing.

Now hold it for an hour, and you may start feeling pain in your hand. Now hold it for a day, and you may start feeling intense pain, or your hand might get paralyzed, and somebody may have to take you to the hospital to save you.

But did you notice that the weight of the water inside the glass does not change? Then what is the reason for the increasing pain, and how can you get rid of it? Just think for a while before reading further.

The only remedy to get rid of this pain is to put the glass down.

Now imagine all your problems, worries, and fears like the water inside the glass. If you think about them for a minute, nothing happens. But if you think about them for a whole day, they start sapping your energy, and you start getting irritated, tense, or even depressed. The more you think about them, the more they scare you and cause trouble for you.

It is important in life to let go of your past and remember to put the glass down.

But
Is it that simple???
Dwelling on the Past?

Is it a habit, or something we can truly move through?
I, for one, have developed a mechanism to not think about it, more like a let it be approach.

But then again, can the past still creep into your subconscious and bother you? Certain memories, certain feelings… Do they, like water, always find their way back?

What about those bitter moments, the times someone broke your heart or hurt your trust? Do they stay buried, or do they return to bite you when you least expect it?

People say forget and move forward. But, again, is it really, really, that simple?

I am not talking about deep traumas here.
I mean forgiveness, letting go of small or big hurts, not letting old experiences dictate your future.

Is that possible, for a truly healthy tomorrow?

Can a person ever be free from their past?

I don't think so.

You can, for a while, convince yourself — reassure your own heart.
But certain things remain. Bitterness stays.

What is the point of these memories?
Sometimes it feels like they're there just to make you feel the pain the was caused by someone else’s behaviour.

If something comes from above, a natural calamity or an accident for instance, a person might reconcile with it, or perhaps some of it fades — yet the sorrow often remains. But the anger that comes along with the hurt caused by people doesn’t easily leave.

You might be wondering, “What’s the point of such a long preamble, all this buildup? We already know this lady.”

The point is simple: never be the reason for someone’s pain. You cannot control the behavior of others, and many things in life are beyond your control. But one choice is always in your hands — the choice to act with kindness.

Don't be the cause that makes someone toss and turn at night, unable to sleep because your behaviour was unbearable, or because you hurt them so deeply that they carry that wound with them.

Be careful in how you treat others. Small efforts to not hurt someone can matter more than you think.

I say this today because there are so many people around us whose lives would be much better if those connected to them paused to think, even a little.
In our culture, where caring for parents is a given, a daughter-in-law carries certain responsibilities that she is expected to fulfill. To survive in such family systems, while still holding on to one’s sanity, is a struggle of its own.

Many, amongst them, keep comparing themselves with those who don’t carry such responsibilities. Either their circumstances are favorable, or because they are so uncompromising that they detach themselves from every kind of obligation.

But those who do shoulder responsibilities, whether because their hearts won’t let them turn away, or because their circumstances leave them no choice — deserve compassion. Such people need kindness and understanding... And a lot of it!