I liked the point you made about there being a difference between forgiveness and acceptance:

Acceptance means that we validate someone actions. And honestly, not all actions should be validated.

Forgiveness is giving up your right to seek repayment for the harm that someone has caused.

These ideas are very different, even though sometimes we attempt to lump them together.

I pray you find healing. I pray that you find reconciliation with the living. I pray that the dead no longer hold control over your life.