How the foundation of true love is built

Let's talk about true love without pretence or romance. Authentic, long-lasting, and bringing true enjoyment and enriching daily life for the couple to grow personally and together.

Do real loves exist? Yes, of course. But cinema and literature should not be used as examples. It's likely you or others are experiencing it. If so, you already know the secret: the effort and determination to establish this partnership day after day, where both members may team up and share their energies.

Because love isn't always enough. Regardless of passion, attraction, or blinding emotion. For authenticity and longevity, a healthy relationship requires more. Talk about it today. Let's explore true love—the kind that benefits us.

Being deeply loved provides you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”

Lao Tzu

Romantic love myth
Hollywood and literature are likely to blame for many of us growing up with this type of “romantic” love. They told stunning stories that made us fantasise, impossible sophisms rarely found in real life.

Clearly, “Romantic love” is not actual love. Even more, let us avoid these romanticism-related myths:

It's not altogether wrong. Many couples can maintain their love till death. Instead of thinking "love must be eternal," ask yourself if you're pleased today. Additionally, powerful transitory loves might be worth living.

Romantic jealousy shows affection. No true love exists without jealousy. Seeing envy as a sign of love is risky, as it fosters dominance and distrust, leading to destructive relationships.

The idea that a couple without passion is not real is still a romantic love myth. Extreme feelings must be expressed to maximise sexuality and affection has no middle ground.

Untrue story. A relationship evolves, yet even if the intensity fades, the couple remains close and complicit.

“All passions are good whilst we have them, but bad when they enslave us.”

Jean-Jacques Rousseau

True love does not require artifice or magic to go well since “we are predestined.” Of course, chance may have played a big role in two people meeting. Leaving aside the "halo of magic," what matters is the daily, where small actions form true relationships.

Sincere listening, democratic speech, and agreement. Forces are distributed, no one loses, scales balance, and talks continue.

Good communication includes discussions, so be careful. Be honest—it's normal. Do not hide anything to avoid animosity.

The pair respects and appreciates each other's strengths and flaws. No disdain, irony, or humiliation, mutual regard, and personal growth are allowed while evolving as a partnership.

Over time, we may lose that early passion, but we're content. A healthy, happy, and satisfied marriage realises that true love is sustained by daily mutual gaze, smiles, and optimism for the future.

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