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RE: How To Get Your Boyfriend To Propose!
After being engaged twice it is really only a piece of paper now. I am not completely fussed anytime soon nor is my girlfriend. Sometimes you want it but then the other person ends up being horrible or things just don't work out, then you got engaged for nothing. But it's a take the chance and aim for it if you love them kind of thing.
I agree! I feel like for some of us younger women, it's something we want so bad, We don't realize that it doesn't really change a lot. Sure, you throw a party and it's all exciting. But overall with more and more people cohabiting. It's changing what marriage means to a lot of people.
Honestly I think it is different, it does change things. The day I got married was the likely the best day of my life, if not top 3! It was amazing to have a big party with everyone you knew and loved all there to celebrate and be together. I am in the process of getting divorced atm but I still loved my wedding day.
I didn't really want to get married the first time but he really wanted to so I did it for him. Now I realize that I needed to do it for me not for him. The ending was inevitable really.
How ever the point of my comment on this is to say that having a wife or a husband is a big deal, its saying to the world but more importantly each other I choose you and weather you are religious or not (I am most definitely not) it is a commitment to one another that you hold above anything else.
I find it quite ironic that I completely understand and value marriage more now that I have actually been thought it. When I attend a wedding and hear the vows I now feel the seriousness and the commitment in the words, where at the time it did not have that weight.
Next time... I will choose differently and I will only marry someone if I am over the moon excited to do so. Otherwise I already know the outcome.
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Aww I'm sorry you are going through a divorce, But it seems you learned a lot and next time it will be better! It's definitely something you don't want to mess with. And sometimes I'm grateful for what happened to me. I just wish it happened a bit earlier so I had more time to date around more.
Girl you have all the time in the world!
Don't regret time that has passed, it was never time wasted. You were young and in love and you were having fun, you said you enjoyed your time with him so it was not a waste. Now you can meet someone who has also went through a bit of life and learnt a bit about the world.
As for me don't be sorry about the divorce, it is happening and its fucking hard but its the right direction for both of us I am certain. I will be so happy when it is finally all settled and over with though, that is for sure!
Yup it used to be the preset of what everyone wants but now it is less and less common and everyone just has kids first these days. Shrugs haha
Right? I kind of like the thought of marriage then kids. And refuse to do it the other way around. It seems too crazy and risky to have a kid without marriage.
Well each to their own, but if you love someone and have kids first then at least you have that still which would be amazing. :)