When Love Isn’t Enough
This. 8 years, three kids, two jobs, a mortgage, bills, LIFE. Sometimes the words “I Love You” stop feeling so important, and the ACTION takes precedence in a relationship. Am I right?
There once was a time when the words “I Love You” meant EVERYTHING. The very epitome of how a long term relationship begins to build... as two people say those three little words that mean SO MUCH.
There is a bond that connects two people together as they build this loving relationship. This bond most consider a friendship; a mutual respect for one another, a common ground of similarities and attraction to opposite characteristics. The list goes on.
But what does it mean 8 years and three kids later?
For me, it means couple’s therapy. Weekly. It means appreciating the tiny little things my partner does for me, of which my favorite is making coffee or wrestling our kids so I can take a 10 minute bath in SILENCE. It means carving out time for one another, even if it’s closing the door for a five minute conversation without interruption.
As we continue through life with a partner, life definitely takes it’s toll, leaving this beautiful loving friendship we have committed to, feel lack luster and less than shiny.
Take time to nurture this relationship. In my world, nothing is more important than my family. So why not work the hardest for them, instead of accepting the “less than” feeling of treading water?
Marriage should be an OASIS. A place you run to, seek solitude in, and burn for!
What do you do to make your relationships your OASIS?!?
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Love this and completely agree!
We are not married yet, we are engaged - 6 years together and 4 kids.. and life definitely takes its toll.
I feel maintaining that original friendship is so crucial! Mess around together, laugh like there is no tomorrow, hold the other up through their weaker times, let the little annoyed comments and nags go and love even when you feel the other does not deserve it! That is what we try to always do!
Oh andddd FORGIVE FORGIVE FORGIVE - we all make mistakes!
Thanks for sharing a great post! x
I TOTALLY AGREE! My husband and I are currently working on taking responsibility with each other with each “confrontation.” This could be as simple as “I could have handled that differently, I’m sorry” to something more substantial. No one is perfect, and getting into a “you always” cycle only forecasts continued arguing and resentment!
Thanks for your reply! Three kids is enough, I can’t even imagine four!!! Keep rockin’ on!
time changes everything in the life of a couple, passion is the combistible of the beginning, only that, then it becomes what you talk about
Media can give such a false advertisement of what a relationship should be. It makes it seem like once you find that one, it is fireworks, and excitement, and perfection. In reality, there is no perfect relationship... and things can get boring or played out. You are so right, it is up to both parties to keep the relationship alive.
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