I agree with you. Everyone has a different way of healing and experiences past relationships differently. I believe you've out grown your ex to come to a position to occasionally wonder how he is doing, in a healthy way, without losing much sleep about it. A lost love, especially first love, wont indeed be easily forgotten. I experienced the same. The post seems a bit controversial, but i hope it can bring some perspective to those who havent had a closure yet. Even after 17 months and 26 days, (and counting).