Treasure in family
I've been reading a lot about family members not seeing each other for a long time and must say it does make me sad. I don't see my own sister nearly often enough and have a half sister which I haven't seen since 1986, no idea where she is.
My dad and my mom's mom were very big on family and arranged many a large family gathering at my gran's house over school holidays, especially Christmas.
After the passing of my gran and not long after my dad, the family gathering started to dwindle and subsequently many of us cousins and siblings just seem to lose track of each other nad as many of you know, life also happens which makes things even more difficult and before you know it you don't recognise anyone and everyone has kids and by the time they see you for the first time they have no clue who you are, sad but true.
With social media these days it saddens me that families allow these rifts to occur and grow. Is family just not important to people anymore? I understand disagreements and so on, but does one really write off your own family over stuff that really could be sorted out in civilized and mature fashion?
Why have our values gone astray and why are we so comfortable with losing family that isn't even dead?
Just a little something I thought of today.
Added in is some of the kind of music Afrikaners listen to when there is a braai, some drinks and dancing involved
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We only get to meet up at funerals or weddings in my family but when we do it’s like we have never been apart. That’s my father’s side . My mother’s side I don’t mind if I never see them again. My grandmother passed away recently. She had money. Lots of money. We didn’t want any of it. Once the funeral expenses were covered my mother was happy. My mother is not rich but she would rather be poor than take money from her mother. This wasn’t the same for her 2 brothers and 2 sisters. On the week my nanny died there were 4 withdrawals every day of 3000 Euro each time . Someone was clearing her account. We knew it was my mother’s sister. My mother turned a blind eye. In my nanny’s will she divided her funds up by 4. Not much left after funeral and also one of the brothers who cleared 20k from her account for a business venture. My mother’s view is that the money train has stopped but I don’t care if I don’t see these people ever again. I know your example is your half sister which is a lot closer but there is two people in this . An article recently with Anthony Hopkins revealed that the actor doesn’t have a relationship with his daughter because he doesn’t like her . That’s an eye opener. Not many people would admit this ! You can’t choose your family
@blanchy, I have stories about various members of my extended family I would be embarrassed to write about, much less share. Deaths and funerals in the Southern US have an almost folklore status when it comes to "cleaning things out". It would be funny if it were not outright theft from another family member, and was someone else's family.
Like the cousin who stole Grandmother's piano from her home during the funeral. We all thought the poor woman had left the funeral because she was so grief-stricken!
😂😂😂😂 meanwhile cousin was heard by neighbours doing the piano solo to great balls of fire before the removal van arrived !
Knowing her, probably. 😂
I do understand that completely mate as there are some family I also don't miss as they left us down and out after my dad died and they just about cleared my mom out of what we were supposed to live off and never gave it back before she died. That is some rotten behaviour man.