Being in the wrong place at the right time?
For over two decades, I have dedicated my career to working with individuals in numerous capacities. My primary focus has been to help people recognize the unique beauty they each possess and to explore new ways of connecting their experiences.
Together, we have reframed our understanding of work and life, aiming to create a more fulfilling existence.
Throughout this journey, I often ponder why so many talented individuals undervalue themselves, despite holding prestigious academic degrees and achieving significant success in their careers. It seems puzzling, especially when considering the plethora of accomplishments that many of us accumulate.
It is a common experience for those of you reading this—many of you may possess advanced degrees such as Master's, MBA's, or even PhDs, and yet, there are moments when you may feel less than exceptional.
You might find yourself questioning your abilities and doubting your achievements, even when your credentials suggest otherwise.
Three years ago, after years of curiosity and informal research, I stumbled upon an important realization. I came to understand that many people seek the reasons for their dissatisfaction in the wrong places. We often look externally for the keys to our happiness.
Let’s take a moment to engage in a simple exercise together. First, ensure you are seated comfortably. Now, let’s pause for a brief moment—try to be still and do nothing for 20 seconds.
During this short period of stillness, you may have noticed an inner dialogue stirring within you. Perhaps thoughts like, “This is unusual! What’s the purpose of this? What is she thinking?” floated through your mind.
This inner voice is a common aspect of our mental experience. It tends to express ideas and concerns that we might not see as essential, sometimes even pulling our focus away from what genuinely matters.
Picture this voice as a housemate. If you shared your living space with someone constantly chattering and being critical, it wouldn’t take long before you would want that person to leave.
Now, consider how much of what this voice is communicating is actually true. If you find yourself wondering, “What is she talking about? I don’t hear voices; I am the voice!” then recognize that we all engage in an internal dialogue. Whether driving, listening to a partner, or trying to manage family responsibilities, our minds are often busy processing thoughts.
When you notice the voice narrating your experiences, remember that you are not the voice itself. You are the one observing it.
The voice seems to operate independently, but as you step back to observe it, you can slow down its chatter. Each day, we experience around 70,000 thoughts. Imagine them like waves crashing onto the shore and then retreating back into the ocean. Some waves linger, while others quickly pull back.
A more peaceful life begins with increased awareness of your thinking. Challenge the ideas and beliefs that do not serve you well.
No external source will provide you with the keys to inner peace. It is vital to understand that satisfaction and happiness come from within, not from outside influences.