Don't let your past experiences define your present (20-1-2026)
@ purityy
Hello everyone my name is Purity Okon but my user name on steemit is purityy, growing up as a child as small as I was, I was facing alot of challenges, I did not have anyone to advice me or monitor me to know what I was doing and what I was going through, I grow up in the rural area where parents don't think investigating their children and knowing what there were up was not important, all what there focus on was going out every morning working their ass out to provide for the family is all the responsibility they have to fulfill as parents, but that is not it though financial needs is important but emotional needs is also needed.
I grow up in a very rough environment, environment that each day something must happen that will make people run helter skelter, stealing, killing, fighting, and cases of adultery were the news people heard everyday, everything started the moment I start associating with bad gang, I started doing what was not acceptable in the society, the people I was living with did not know what I was into, the things I was doing, sometimes I will leave the house to join my friends and we go to club, as young as I was, at times I will be beaten when I come back from the club the next day, I started dating at the age of thirteen.
I started doing things I was not supposed to at my age, I became smarter, the guy I dated was always violence, because I was young he always wanted to take advantage of my innocent,I remember a day I went to his house he wanted to laid with me but refused, because no matter how rough I was I promise I will never give my virginity to any man except he is my husband, he used belt to design my back which I still have the mark up till date, I ran out from his room that night with regret and shame, for the first time in my life I was afraid, got home crying, thank God no one was around that night to see what was happening, I rush into my room, cried myself to sleep.
Wake up the next morning and realized that was not the kind of life I wanted for my self, so I sent him a breakup text message, but he vow never to let me go, he kept causing trouble for me embarrassing me anywhere he sees me, I could not bear it again I had to report him to the authority which he was put in his place, I began to see life differently, I disassociate my self from bad friend both in school and at home, I stop smoking, going out with boys, clubbing, I stopped everything, by then I was about writing my senior school examination, so I began reading, paying attention in class.
I was living well as a teenager, until the unexpected incident happened, on a faithful Sunday, I and my cousin went out to barb our hairs, on our way we met a man, according to my cousin she knows him, the man offer to drive us to where we were going, during the drive the man said he knows us, that he just want to take us on outing we agreed since my cousin knew him, he even wait till we finish barbing our hair, he took us to a bar, buy us chicken, drinks, we eat what ever we wanted, it was time to go home, and he took us to his house without our consent, called his friends and we were raped, the next morning he took us home, I could not tell anyone what happened to me.
If at all it ended there it would have been better, but he went around the whole village telling people how we throw ourselves on him because of money, I was pained, ashamed, ridiculed, I became the talk of town, my parents were so ashamed of me, I was almost kicked out of the house if not for my aunt's intervention, I almost killed my self, that took a toil on me, I became a shadow of myself and vow never to have anything to do with any guy, but thankfully I bounced back to my feet after realizing I need to fight for my self, my future, and that should be a story I will have t tell one day to my young girls so they could learn. Though he was not arrested but he is paying for his sins now.