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RE: Your thoughts Can Help Save My Daughter
If you taught her well, trust her. Be there for her. You will have to change if you want to help save your daughter. I am speaking as a father of a beauty queen who had great grades and did similar things. The hormones are raging, let her work through it. It is her life now and mostly out of your control. Let her live it.
I think I can absorb this sir and keeping my fingers crossed for her..I think this can also be a better idea..thank u
I am so so so unwell, else i would have given you advice. Talk to her lovingly but you have to talk to her. Its not out of your hands. At 16, i was still getting a spanking. Talk to some elderly people she respects to talk to her. Then talk to the boy and perhaps his family and set boundaries. A 16 year old girl shouldn't be having boyfriends or be afraid to have one but that's the Philippines for you. 16 is still a kid in the Philippines, so be mother and let her be kid. Even the Bible says; "don't spare the rod and the rod can take different forms depending on the child", so it can be loving discipline and there are times for firm boundaries. And you are single mum, let that motivate you, it doesn't have to be a negative, it can be testimonial too. Sometimes, you have to be drastic too, so if it means talking to the boys parents, let it be. I understand, it is a different ball game here but play your role. Then don't forget prayers. Pray to Jehovah in Jesus' name. If you need people to talk to on this, look for a kingdom hall and you will find peeps there to give you more solid advice. I am so so so un-well in every way, so i will just go back to speechlessness. Life is one tough thing!
Thanks a lot @surpassingoogle for this heartly advice thats what I also thought also to talk to the guy and his parents.I already talk to my daughter deeply that her life will be misserable if she wont focus with her studies alone and with her future.There is a right time to have a boyfriend when she reach at her right age.I just want the best for her and that is my only vission to give them a good life.I hope and pray that she will keep my words in her heart that she will realize that everything that I do was for her .
I doubt if this is the right advice. You have to understand environments too and no its not her life. There is still time to curb things
Any time is the right time for adult guidance. Each situation is different as are roles each family member plays. Sorry if I stepped into your role as the parental figure.
i didn't mean it like that. How i meant it is more related to how things are here in PH. A sixteen year old here is very very much a kid. Plus, the environment here isn't one that has many mirrors in it. If one would falter, no one will put you in the right directions.
I think both @Surpassinggoogle and @Celsius100 have good points. Even if we taught them well the environment around can undo them or make changes. I am also a single mom but luckily only one and a daughter. Too. We don't want our daughters to make the same mistake as we did (but they are never mistakes because we love them just wrong timing). We just need to keep talking and reminding them.Prayers really helps. If she is still a minor like I advised @antonett, talk to the boy and his parents. It will be a shame if her future gets ruined. Shildren are the future so we must try to place them on the right track. It may be hard but we have to try. Now my daughter is married and working in the US. I am also expecting my first grandchild early next year. MY hard work, headaches, stress and worries paid off.
You have actually outlined nice advice here. A person once said that our children and other people come 3rd in our lives. God is first and the spouse second. When a girl or boy meets somebody who pronounces love. All the rest go to oblivion. Prayer is the only salvation to our children
your advice maam Daisy and admire all of your worthy hardworks and effort to your child that she listens to you and now that she has a good life at U.S
I kinda agree with environment and culture. It's different here in the Philippines, how it was from other countries. That's why it is too difficult for @antonette because it doesn't use to be like that here in the Philippines, and expectation is different from other countries. It's like parenting here is different, but there are also great points that can be learned from people of differenr countries.