Honesty or Kindness

Would you lie to someone just to keep them being happy? Would you say to a kid that Santa is a lie just so he can suffer now and not later on?

Honesty versus kindness is a paradox. They all bring suffering. The one brings it earlier and the other just strikes you with it from the very beginning. It depends first on the scale of the lie. If for example, you say "I love you" just so you can sleep with someone and keep them being happy with you because they love you, this particular lie embeds the end of the relationship from the start. When they find out and they will, that you do not love them, everything is over. How will they find out? Through actions. Love is caring and when you stop to care, they will start questioning stuff.

If the lie is not as huge, you can get away with it. Then kindness does not really matter. For example, the classic "Do you love my dress", it does not really matter if you lie here. Well, it is for the greater good. But bigger lies hurt you and the other.

"I don't love him, but he is so kind, I can't say no to him"

Don't be like that. The longer the lie keeps repeating itself, the bigger will be the consequences from it. You will break his heart more than if you just said "I don't love you" in the first place. The guy will start to care and breaking his built trust will ruin his life, maybe even make him not want to love someone again. You are playing the pleasure game. "I want to please him so I will say yes", then you suffer because of him and then he suffers afterwards from the end of the relationship. Don't do that. Just say no.

The bigger the lie gets, the harder it is to break it. If the person is so into this lie and it is his whole life, maybe it is better to keep him that way. You need to step back, see if he/she can handle the truth and if they can't, leave it be. If that ruins their happiness, it is not worth it. Happiness is a state of mind so it will depend on the person. If he/she is a person who you think can't see happiness beyond this lie, leave the lie. If you, on the other hand, have the opportunity to find an early developing mind, try teaching him the truth.

What does "the truth" mean?

Well, the truth is thinking. To me, if you have to teach someone the truth, you need to make him think and question everything. If you do that, surprise surprise, they will find it themselves. You can't really just provide the truth, most of the time it does not work like that. What you can do is make them think and they will come up with it. Of course, if they are an open-minded person, they do think on their own, you can provide them with the information. By information I mean, the reality we live in. The real reality behind closed doors. The cold, painful reality that everything in high levels is corrupt and not so shiny as it looks.

If I have to choose, I chose honesty. It is way better, to be honest, and not suffer because of your kindness. Honesty runs the world even if you don't realise it. It makes revolutions and it prevails in the end. The truth wins, everyone sees it eventually. If you have to be kind for a moment, okay, just don't wait too long. Because it can break a heart. What do you guys think? Thank you for reading, have a nice day. God Bless

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