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I would start this post with the words…. we have been oriented wrongly
This phrase may not apply to you, but I’m very sure it applies to at least 70% of my readers.

How! you may ask?

Remember the saying, ‘Keep your friends close, but keep your enemies closer!’
Well, I recently found out that that’s a really really wrong F**ked up mindset.
Reason for this is explained below…
Now life isn’t a one-way trip up, it’s full of ups and downs. That’s what we call the balance of life. So at every high, there is bound to be a low, sometime in the future.

How is this relevant to the popular quote I mentioned, you may ask?

Keeping your enemies closer requires special attention, well they are your enemies and you are about to cozy up with them. It takes a special kind of patience and restrain, all of which consumes brain power. For this reason, we tend to pay less attention to those we allow into our care circle, we generally just accept like-minded, easy going, relatable people.

Next Question on your mind might be, why is this wrong?

Now since life is a journey of ups and downs, by default we would experience downs, if we have enemies or not. It’s irrelevant, it’s life. It’s how things go, if we are not tested how would we know we’ve grown.
The sole difference between life and people who hate us is that unlike life, our haters just want us down for no credible reason and they derive joy from watching us down or staying down.

Point I’m trying to make here is, the down days would come. Even if we cage up all our haters to keep them as close as possible or we ignore them. The down days would still be upon us. Why not spend the time and energy we pay to get our haters closer, on making and getting the best friends possible. Cause ultimately, they make up the bulk of our support structure.

Why not spend the time knowing your friends, knowing that when it’s down and dirty, they are there to get you back on your feet. To provide the support you need, to help you, to remind you that life teaches us valuable lessons through this circle.

The more you worry about people who don’t like you, the more the people who pretend to like you become the bulk of your friends. And I don’t need to spell it out, we all know that these ones don’t stay when you are down. They are here for the ups only.

So rather than have an hospital room full with visiting friends during your scheduled weekly dialysis, why not have a cup of coffee with your friends. Including the one who offered a kidney not out of compulsion, but out of love. Cause he/she knows that you would do the same if the situations were changed, and generally cause coffee or ice cream in a café is better than ‘a cheer up conversation’ by your hospital bedside.

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So if I’m to rewrite that quote I’ll say: Keep your friends closer and let life worry about your enemies