Psychology Addict # 27 | Discussing Misconceptions about Psychology
Little by little, through the incredible discussions that have been taking place here on my blog, I am getting a better grasp of where some of the misconceptions surrounding both the field of psychology and mental-health issues come from. I have always understood too well that most of what people know about psychology is a result of what is portrayed by the mainstream media. However, now, more than ever before, I can see that some of the mistaken views and opinions about these topics also stem from people’s personal set of beliefs.
Let me just say, though, first of all, that by addressing the very statements I am going to discuss here I am not, by any means, trying to persuade anybody to go against their doctrines, or much less challenge those doctrines. What I am trying to do is to get some flexibility out of people in order to reduce prejudiced views towards mental ill-health.
Discussing Misconceptions
I am going to start with this misbelieve because it may be the one which puzzles me the most.
The big corporations invented mental illness in order to profit from it. 😕
At the same time I appreciate that for some people the concept of mental-illness is a difficult one to fathom due to its subjective nature, I also struggle to understand why this is the case. Because I am yet to meet, or read in medical literature, about someone who has not been through some sort of struggle with their mood, thinking or behaviour from time to time. For instance, have a look at the following experiences:
Disorganized thinking – when was the last time you felt you needed to put your thoughts in order?
Hallucinations - Have you ever had the impression you heard someone calling your name, for example?
Confusion between reality & imagination - Was it a dream, did I see it in a movie, or did it really happen?
Shifts in mood - Are you familiar with feeling confident in one occasion and insecure in another?
I don’t know about you, but within the past twenty-four hours I experienced two out of the four examples I listed above, and guess what? They are all experiences that people living with mental conditions such as psychosis, schizophrenia and bipolar go through. True, such experiences are constantly recurring in the lives of the individuals afflicted by the aforementioned disorders. And it is precisely the recurrence that warrants a diagnosis. Still, my point is, this is not a far-fetched reality for people who have not received a diagnosis.
So, how unrelatable can the above experiences be for someone to the point they state they have been created by corporations? I am not quite sure.
I know you are talking about the pharmaceutical industry
I am not a big fan either; but, perhaps, for different reasons. Like this one:
There is evidence demonstrating that ADMs (anti-depressants) are not more effective than Cognitive Therapy in the treatment of depression.
Ps: Don’t be intimidated by the chart. I put it here mainly for purposes of illustration 😇
The chart below illustrates the findings of a study conducted in individuals who had mild to severe depression. The clients treated with an ADM as well as those treated with Cognitive Therapy showed significant improvement after 8 weeks, when compared to those treated with placebo (a sugar-coated pill). After 16 weeks, though, patients being treated with ADMs and Cognitive Therapy exhibited almost the same response.
Amazing! Right? Well, not so much! In this same research the authors discuss how neither Cognitive Therapy nor ADMs provide the definite solution. As they also point out to the fact that these patients are also more likely to have another depressive episode when compared with the general population.
I have quite a blunt way of viewing this: the fact that someone has been treated for depression either with medication or therapy, doesn’t magically turn their lives into a walk in the park from then onwards. Adversities will inevitably come again and depending on their overall context and history they may fall into a depressive state once more.
All because of our wicked society, you tell me.
Well, not all but, most mental issues, mainly those rooted in stress are associated with the life style and social values cultivated nowadays, yes. The pursuit for instant gratification, the “always-on” life and the keeping up with the Joneses are just a few of such contributors.
This is an observation made especially by psychoanalyses, which, in a nutshell, puts forward the following:
Mental distress is the product of the civilised, rule-bound world we live in.
Still, while there are those who can recover from their emotional difficulties without medication there are those who cannot. Yet, they still return to fully function in life and in many cases that is because of treatments with ADMs which they either took for a period of time; or, take on a daily basis. For sure the corporations profit from such cases; however, the profit I choose to focus on here is that of the families who have their loved ones once again emotionally stable, and that of the individual who is no longer haunted by so much suffering. These are cases that I have come across both in my off-line life and here, on Steemit, through your most wonderful comments.
Comments left on my last post
..... I started having several panic attacks a day and eventually stopped sleeping because the panic attacks would wake me up almost immediately. It was probably the lack of sleep that caused the anhedonia. It took several medications and about six months to bring me out of that downward spiral and I do think I exhibited resilience. But I'm not sure resilience alone would have been enough to get my body to start sleeping again and stop hitting me with continuous shots of adrenaline ....
.... I feel that medication can play a very important role in treating some of these disorders. I know that in my case it has been a game changer and has significantly improved my quality of life.... My anxiety manifested as frustration and anger, and my coping strategies were inappropriate. Going onto a medication enabled me to better manage my behaviour and in conjunction with a psychologist, work to develop more appropriate coping strategies when feeling stressed, frustrated or anxious....
These are both extracts of comments generously left by two different readers on my post Depression – Where to Draw the line?.
I would like to thank again these two kind people from the bottom of my heart for leaving such meaningful, hopeful messages (they know who they are! 😘).
Moving on to another misconception.
Psychology only studies sick people. 😯
This is not an accurate statement! And, it concerns me for the following reason: it is this sort of hostile thinking that disseminates uninformed preconceptions.
You don’t even have to leave my blog to find out this is not the case.
Studies such as this one on Evaluative Conditioning was conducted in emotionally stable adults, and explores how people come to like and dislike things through association. This study further delivered a better understudying for the cases of PTSD, when, for example, people re-experience their traumatic event as a result of an encounter with a song, something someone said or an image (triggers)that they associate to their traumatic events.
Further, don`t forget the classic psychological research The Obedience to Authority Study, in which the participants were all mentally adjusted, family men. Through studying perfectly healthy adult males this study unveiled some of the reasons why good people may, depending on the circumstances, go against their moral values and harm others. Finally, within my blog you can find yet another study that was not conducted in mentally-distressed individuals; but rather, in a group of little children with the purpose to discover how deep their understanding of friendship goes.
But, I must admit I understand why some people come to the conclusion that psychology is mainly concerned with the negative aspects of human existence. Especially because this was indeed the case for quite a few years. There is an explanation for this, though, which I will tell you a little bit about next.
Traditional Psychology & Positive Psychology
Psychology emerged as a science with three main purposes:
- Find a cure for mental ill-health
- Improve general well-being
- Identify and nurture high-potentials
In fact, these were aspects of human life which received greater attention from academics prior the wars; but, particularly after the second world war the first purpose – find a cure for mental ill-health - understandably became its focus, as so many veterans returned home from the battle field afflicted by dissociation and terrifying flashbacks. Thereafter, the works of psychology mostly shifted towards the treatment of the mentally-ill.
However, there is much more to psychology than the treatment of mental distress. For example, Positive Psychology is a branch within the field that focuses on aspects of human life concerning well-being; some of these aspects are: personal growth, individual potentials and all the features of existence that, as some psychologists like to describe, ‘make life worth living’. The main therapeutic approach within this branch is, perhaps, Humanistic Psychology, which I have already talked about on a previous post.
Acceptance, love and compassion are nowadays subjects largely researched by Positive Psychologists and are topics I will indeed discuss here in the near future.
Final thoughts
Am I trying to tell you that psychology holds the grand solutions for all humanity’s troubles? Absolutely not! Because it doesn’t. And this is why I try to raise your awareness about things such as situations that call for the use of anti-depressants and those that do not. Whether I write about Humanistic Psychology or The Diagnosis of Mental Illness I point out its strengths and weaknesses.
You see, my aim is not to persuade you about anything; what I try to do here is to bring you information with its pros and cons, because I believe in your critical thinking capacity.
[Original Content by Abigail Dantes - 2018]
Reference List:
DeRubeis, R.J., Siegle, G.J and Hollonh, S.D (2008) ‘Cognitive Therapy versus medication for depression: treatment outcomes and neural mechanisms, Nature Reviews Neuroscience, vol.9, pp. 788-96.
Seligman, M. (2002) Authentic Happines, New York, The Free Press.
Dear Reader,
Last week I shared with you my struggle to accept Luca’s situation with his parents and treatment, and you were generous enough to not leave me alone with my frustration. You also shared with me some of your emotional difficulties.
What about if for this post we created a space for positivity and commented on that thing in our lives (it can be anything) that we would not change for anything in the world and why! For example:
I would not change for anything in this world, the years I have spent with my husband. Because he makes me feel truly comfortable with whom I am.
I wish you all a wonderful weekend & hope this post has broadened your view and understanding about the field of psychology and mental health a little bit more.
Hello again. As I read through your beautifully written post, I had several thoughts about some of the points you made. Let me see if I can recall them all.
You mentioned that even though the people in the Cognitive Therapy/ ADM research got better, it does not mean that they would not need help anymore. I completely agree with this even though I'm not an expert in these things. In fact there is a saying where I come from which says:
**A crazy man could never be so completely cured that he would stop soliloquizing
Of course, this is not to suggest that soliloquy is a symptom of craziness but the point is whatever caused mental illness in the first place including the life pressures that encouraged it, would still be there if the subject is immersed back in the society without the appropriate support to help him or her cope with these ever present challenges.
You mentioned people who think that psychology only studies the negative and you are right again. Most people from this side of the world think there is no need for the psychologist when everything is going well. But, really what is the definition of things going well? In my opinion, there is no normal and we are all slightly unbalanced and as you said, we all go through some of the things people with mental illness go through repetitively. So who is to say what event would trigger one of those events into a recurring one that would require a cure?
Another reason why saying that psychology studies only negative conditions must be wrong is that it is impossible to study only negatives and achieve anything because there would be no reference point. There would be nothing to compare a condition with and determine it to be less than a perfect condition. Having said that, I must add that I love positive psychology. I'm sure that what Shawn Achor calls The Science of Happiness is a part of it.
Finally, I particularly like the part you mentioned that majority of what stresses us is seeking immediate gratification. I read a definition of suffering somewhere about ten years ago and it stuck. It said that suffering is a product of seeking gratification that are likely to fail. In other words, we suffer when we want satisfaction from things that we cannot have.
One thing I will not change about myself are the difficulties which I experienced early in life which made me adopt the attitude that everything that has happened or would ever happen to me, is preparing me for the wonderful life that awaits me.
Thank you so much for your work. You are everything we hope for in a human being. ❤️
This is a beautiful comment and I can sense that this resonates personally with you. To anyone out there suffering from mental health issues, please seek help. Cognitive behavioral therapy and anti depressants in combination do have a significant effect on alleviating some of the symptoms which can then kickstart a person into proactively trying to adopt coping mechanisms that help them deal with life stressors. I agree that it is not the only solution and to truly cure depression one has to target the routes of their problems, but medications and therapy do go a long way in aiding this process.
Thank you so much for your compliment. I can tell that you know the subject well. We are all vulnerable one way or another.
Good back up reply and ur good
This is a beautiful, insightful comment filled with relevant observations @churchboy :)
If only people could be at least as half open minded as you are. Well, then, there would not be prejudice and stigma in the world, I suppose.
I am so pleased with the observation you made about all of us being vulnerable to mental-suffering. Of, course, some of us are more vulnerable than others. Still, this is something people should keep in mind before making some sort of judgement towards those struggling with the thoughts and emotions.
Thank you so much for always stopping by and sharing with us you most amazing reflections.
You really spoil me ❤️
ps: Guess what I am preparing for dinner tonight? Chicken soup. Ahahahaha
Chicken soup, I hear, is good for the soul. Since I am nowhere I can share the soup with you, you must eat for two. I'm already spoilt by you. Thank you.
men, I missed this.. would have had u share the video of the soup so I can eat mine from the computer because chicken soup is one of my favourite. @abigail-dantes
Ahahahahah ...... chicken soup is delish! 😄 Hope granny is feeling better 😊🌷
Yes sis I have a a lot to tell you. shes feeling much better now, far better than before.. The remedy you gave me is still working.. I'm really grateful my friend.
Grandpa's burial was on friday, I told you right?
Oh my :) How wonderful! Things will only get better from now on. I am sure you will all miss grandpa, but it doesn’t have to be in a sad way 😊
Yh @abigail-dantes I hope so too, thks for everything.. And Yes sis, I really miss him.. Lol and no more sadness tho, but he will forever be in our hearts. Heres a post i made realating to his burial.
https://steemit.com/photography/@happymichael/grandpa-s-burial-ceremony-ended-in-photo-shoot
Abby, it has been a while. Do I have the schedule wrong or were you supposed to post today? Well, I just came to see what you would talk about this week. I hope your work is going well. All the best.
Hello my dear @churchboy. Your message made me smile 😊
I am going to post in a couple of hours - I am just finishing work now. I will do it on my lunch break. This week’s post will be about aceptance, being present and awareness. I hope you will like it!! Ps: Just to let you know I try to post every Friday around midday my time (I live in Portugal).
Lots of love to you my dear 😘😍❤️
Thank you, dear Abby. I saw this reply at the same time as the time I saw your post. I will read it now. Thank you for the reply. You're appreciated. I have updated my calendar concerning the date you post. I hope you're having a great day.
such an extraordinary philosopgy
Thank you for giving always the relative view on your speciality. I like it a lot and in case people do have to see a therapist/psychologist/neurologist etc. it is good to know that behind every profession there is a human being which can relativize in what they work. You seem to be this kind of person and your clients (?) or colleagues will reflect this to you.
There are so many unknown and unseen and unconsidered factors behind a psychological issue and it is not possible to explain and name all of them. In order to do that, a single person must serve the knowledge of all faculties and all the rest:)
I live in a world with certain conditions and from what I see people are indeed trying (sometimes too hard) to cope with what is either demanded from the outside and what from the inside. Taking anti-depressants is what many people do (even without having exact numbers, I know myself a lot of them and I even wouldn't consider them having huge issues but mild forms of depression). I would say people are much more adaptable in what they DO in every day life as in what they SAY about this matter. I can state that I am totally against taking pills and curse the pharma but at the same time I silently take my medicine in the evening.
I am 47 years old. And looking back at my life I am happily constructing and de-constructing it and make it good - even the most painful times in my life were good for something (maybe the best in retrospective). There, where I had to leave my comfort zone, I learned how to be human.
Are you 47 @erh.germany? Gosh ... I thought you were more like 147 .... I don't know ... you are always so wise and full of understanding about human nature. The more I read your writings, the more I look up to you.
I never really have a lot to say about your comments. I just read them, make a few notes and take snapshots of them (I do these with another few too). That way it is easier to return to them and learn something else every time I reared it.
Thank you my dear :)
Lots of love to you.
ps: (I am 36).
I am sending my TLC to you, too:)
Though I am now Methusalem and a Guru for you - LOL!!! Ask my man and he will probably beg to differ:)
Back to serious: It really is not easy to take such a compliment. I work on taking them. The easy ones are about style and hair: no problem. The difficult ones are about what you just said.
See, I learn from you as well.
You are always welcome and I thank you, too ❤️
Hola estimada @abigail-dantes! :)
Te cuento que sufro de epilepsia y esta patología ha afectado mucho mi vida en todos los aspectos, algunos de los epilépticos sufren una condición, llamada "el déjà vu y el déjà senti", este fenómeno lo causa el lóbulo temporal asociando una imagen con un recuerdo o experiencia vivida, pero no es así haciéndome mi cerebro una mala jugada, causando en mi un gran malestar ya que mi cerebro entra en corto circuito, causándome un mal general (mareo, nauseas, debilidad en el cuerpo) la neurología lo llama el "aura" es el justo momento antes de un ataque epiléptico, así que entiendo completamente a lo que te refieres cuando hablas de ciertos episodios de confusión, realidad, sueños, etc.
Me agrada esa parte tuya de no querer adoctrinar y de respetar ciertas creencias, pero yo veo que tus aportes informativos sobre estos temas, si son un adoctrinamiento en el área de la psicología y eso me encanta, créeme has despejado muchas dudas con estos temas, enfocando como primicia cual debería ser el tratamiento para las personas con depresión leve o severa, tomando como primera opción el tratamiento cognitivo, placebo y como última opción y no menos importantes los tratamientos con ADM.
En estos días conocí a una muchacha que la diagnosticaron bipolaridad, ella me contaba que no sintió ningún efecto con los fármacos que le colocaron, que empezó a asistir a una iglesia Cristiana y eso le ayudó más, aprendiendo a controlar sus ataques de ira, pero solo es el caso de ella, no todos los casos tienen los mismos resultados.
Es cierto que estas terapias no convierten sus vidas de la noche a la mañana, es un proceso largo que se debe llevar, tanto así que hasta el entorno que le rodea debe cambiar un paciente con depresión leve o severa, porque en la mayoría de los casos esa condición es causas por el estrés social y en eso sin lugar a duda estoy de acuerdo contigo, en el caso de mi mamá el estrés social se ha sumado a su depresión :(.
Para finalizar! la psicología puede que no tenga todas las soluciones para todo lo que abarca esta ciencia, pero si parte de ellas por las décadas de estudios y tratamientos, algo si te digo es mejor poco que nada!
Te envió un beso y un Abrazo Doctora.
This is a truly heartfelt comment @javisem. Thank you for letting me know that case of the young woman leaving with bipolar. It is very, very interesting (as well as your case). You always bring me interesting information. I appreciate it very, very much.
I would also like to thank you for voicing your positive outlook on psychology. It is this sort of feedback that motivates me to keep doing what I am doing here :)
All the best to you and your family!
I told your sister that next week I will be posting an article about acceptance (I will keep you mum in mind!).
I send your mum all my best wishes.
:D
Gracias por su estima y consideración! La aprecio en gran manera, voy a estar pendiente de ese artículo porque de verdad me interesa, anoche me llevaron de urgencias al hospital con una severa neuritis en pecho y espalda todo debido a que? Al impacto del estrés social que estamos viviendo, pero tengo fe que los Venezolanos vamos a salir de esto! Aprovecho para invitarte a leer mi ultimo post en el hablo de que Steemit esta despertando conciencias! Un saludo nuevamente mi Doctora.
I strongly disagree to this idea because in my opinion, you first need to have a concept of what is normal before you can know what is abnormal. Applying this thought to Psychology, Psychologists can only determine who has a mental illness if and only if they have a standard of a psychologically healthy mind. And in order to have that, they have to continuously study mentally healthy and unhealthy people alike.
And to participate in your positivity corner...
_**I would not change for anything in this world, the physical, psychological, and mental abuse I have received from my eldest sister when I was a child until adolescence. Because that experience is what made me compassionate, understanding, caring, and loving person that I am now. Knowing how painful and hard it was, made me promise to myself that I would never do those things to others, and in every way that I could, help prevent other people in experiencing that kind of pain and hardship.
It may be a little gloomy for a positivity post, but it's the thing that I wouldn't change for anything in this world. And the outcome was very positive, isn't it? Hahahhaha
Thank you for another worthwhile post @abigail-dantes!
**Hugs and kisses! :) **
It is indeed the outcome that counts my dear :D
If only people could have the emotional strength and resources to look back at their difficult times with a positive outlook, there wouldn't be so many people falling victim to their traumas and defining themselves through it. You are truly beautiful @annepage
Also, thank you so much for writing down here your rationale on the studies of psychology! Beautifully through through.
A big hug and many kisses back to you :)
Hey again! (is it Friday, already?!)
This time your article shocked me. Absolutely no irony or space for joke
I cannot believe that there are such misconceptios about our profession and psychology in general. Really?!
At first I got really angry but as I continued reading how you explain them in a calm and educating manner I could not notice how much effort and patience you've put in your words. Admirations about that. Really.
Your article once again proves to be a really valuable and original content regarding psychology and it's obvious that you are consistent and I may say successful towards your ultimate goal to educate people about psychology and improve the quality of the hashtag. Thank you! Once again I cannot simply pass your article and not resteem it! Have a nice week(end) and I will visit you next Friday :)
Thank you for your encouragement @dysfunctional! You never fail to leave a comment filled with positive words. Knowing that I have people like you around really motivates to address this reality!
All the best to you my dear :)
It cannot be said otherwise. My comments are simply a reflection of what your articles are. :)
Another great post Abi! I have two thoughts:
That does not mean that we shouldn't do anything about that, of course! Doing research, educating and designing our society in a way that benefits our mental health is something beautiful. So I'm happy that positive psychology is getting recognized (and it's a wonderful antidote to awful poor quality coaching).
By the way, there is also a rather radical claim made by James Hillman that psychopathology (or psychopathologizing as he would say) is one of the core of human Soul, and that's innate to the psyche. And without it we wouldn't be humans.
gosh, why steemit changes "2." to "1."... :(
Wow @saunter! Thank you for taking the time to stop by. I love all the info you always bring to me.
This is SO true! It made me giggle :D
I could not agree more with:
THANK YOU :)
My pleasure!!!
I once heard a clinical psychologist say that in practice most of his time is not spent trying to cure mental illness but instead helping people with life problems. This seems to fit in with purposes 2 and 3 that you listed above.
As far as purpose 1 goes in my own experience we seem to be nowhere near having a cure for any mental illness. As you pointed out medicine and therapy can help with some disorders but usually people will still suffer from episodes throughout their life.
I think the mental life of individuals is poorly understood from a biological and even moral standpoint. For example, when dealing with repugnant intrusive thoughts people with OCD are taught that they are not choosing to have these thoughts and therefore in some sense are not responsible for them. However, for many people internally it feels as if they are choosing to think these terrible thoughts.
If you asked a normal person about having a normal thought such as "I am going to go eat lunch now" the person would most likely think they are choosing this thought because it agrees with the fact that they are hungry.
I have asked several psychologists about this distinction in thinking and they have essential told me that we don't know how this works. There seems to me many philosophical questions that arise about the nature of thought that arise here that are not well understood.
Sadly, this is something I have to agree with you Tim. Despite how far this field has come, particularly over the past two decades, human mind and behaviour still remains a challenging quest for scholars and scientists. I put this down partly to our individual differences.
I suppose that the day we have the answer for questions such as the one you ask about intrusive thoughts we will have unveiled the fundamentals of consciousness. There are indeed many fascinating assumptions out there; yet, they come with many, many gaps!
All the best to you always Tim.
Thank you so much for taking the time to stop by, read and comment :)
HI. I have read your text and I have to comment on it again because this is one of the best texts I have read about myths related to psychology
First of all, when it comes to the treatment of depression, I completely agree with you. It is better to cure depression with any form of psychotherapy than antidepressants. However, we can not completely renounce traditional psychology and pharmacotherapy because some disorders, such as schizophrenia, require both psychotherapy and pharmacotherapy. Leaving one of these two will not lead to improvement, both need to be present.
I agree with you that psychology is not patocentric, it is more focused on development of health and personality. So, unlike psychiatry which is patocentric and deals exclusively with pathology, psychology deals with health, helping people to reach their peak and self-actualization. Also, in the treatment of psychiatric diseases, psychology starts from the question: what are the healthy and undamaged functions in a diseased man’s body and how can they help a person in recovery?
And finally, the biggest myth - the mentally ill people are dangerous! Mental stigma is very widespread. People suffering from mental disorders have a significantly difficult life because of the symptoms they have, and people are afraid and avoide mentally ill people and therefore their symptoms are aggravated. A mentally ill person is out of the society, unheard of, and hence, since she is aware of it, she is sinking even more. It is necessary to raise awareness of the fact that mentally ill persons are not dangerous and psychopaths, and the whole society should engage in providing assistance to these people.
Hello @top5attractions thank you for stopping by once again. I do remember your previous comment on my post. Very much like this one if incredibly informative and insightful.
I really appreciate the further clarification your comment brings to this topic. So, let me just highlight one (out many) important thing you said here, which I think it deserves the attention of those scrolling through this feed:
Thank you once again for taking the time to leave this message here!
All the best to you :)
We will have further chances on discusing and exchanging our points of view - that's for sure. Because we have in common one very important thing - love towards psychology. :)
Thanks for the clarifications, so many misconceptions out there. Hallucinations affects me sometimes. I'll walk up to my mum and be like "mum you called me right?" She'll be like; "no, I was just talking to your dad". Some say it's a temporary moment of insanity. It's really weird when they're many persons there.
Talking about not changing anything in my life, that will be my family. No matter how difficult it gets for us most times, our love keeps us going. That is what keeps us together, knowing we got each other's back. Only after I get married in some years to come, will I lessen the bonds a little.
Hey @jaffa8 :)
How have you been?
Thank you for sharing your instances of auditory hallucination! It is this kind of comment that helps to bring a certain level of commonality to experiences that sometimes defines someone as mentally ill (of course there is much more to this, but you know what I mean)!
So lovely to hear the thing you wouldn't change in your life :) It is a very comfort feeling indeed to know that in life we have a family we can count on. When you get married, you my lessen the bonds a little (as you put it), but you will also have another family to count on !!
All the best to you always.
Have a great evening.
Oh.. Good evening.. there are always grades haha. I guess I'm good since it's been long the hallucinations happened. Life has really been fair to some extent.
From one family to another, life goes on.
Seems we are in a close timezone, I thought maybe you will be having your breakfast or something. How are things on your side of the world?
Hey @jaffa8
Good to hear you are well! Life has been good for me too, even though it has been incredibly busy. Thank you for asking :)
❤️