RE: Reflecting Inward - Thoughts on Fatherhood and Self-Actualization
I think you have it right, our children will remember not what we have done in the physical sense, but the legacy and opportunity that we give to them. The opportunity and support to realise their own potential.
However, I think you are treating yourself too harshly, I'm sure our parents would have felt similar, despite the fact that we remember things from a different way and in a different perspective. They would have had their weaknesses that they would have been ashamed of, but these are not the things that we remember.
I think the difference in bonding that you have with your second child is entirely normal. The first child is a completely life shattering (in a good way!) experience that only happens the one time. Not that there isn't something special about the second or later times, but it is different. (The sequel is never better than the original... Haha... Lame joke...).
Haha, that's a pretty funny analogy. As an oldest child myself, I approve :P
Yeah, maybe I am being too hard on myself... but it's hard to deny how I feel. Not sure how much of that is under my control or not, so it's just something I'm working through.
Thanks for the advice and the kind words. And thanks for prompting me to write this in the first place with your weekly question :)
I just wrote a long response. I now see @bengy has pretty much said what I wanted to say, but much more succinctly. 😂
I should have said, What he said! and up simply voted his comment. I do however appreciate the chance to broadcast my ideas.
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