Should family love be always unconditional?
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It seems you're confusing unconditional love with unconditional support
Every member of a family deserves that unconditional love. It's the first place where they learn what love truly is. They need to learn that love can overlook ones faults.
That said, not every member deserves unconditional support. They have to earn it by being responsible. If a child decides to become a thief, a parent shouldn't support them. In fact, love would make them speak against the child's act
When you love someone, there are certain lines you'll draw for that person's good. You let the person know how much you love them; and at the same time, what lines you cannot cross.
Love is not a tool for manipulation. That you love someone doesn't mean you must subscribe to everything they do.
I am not confusing the terms. I'm just posing the question. As a matter of fact, I do not espouse the idea of supporting relatives who have done really wrong things, just because "they're family". That's what most cultures understand as love. Popular culture bombards us with ideas of loving unconditionally as forgiving and forgetting because love overcomes all. Usually, that's what criminal use against their own family every time they screw up.