OBEY women!!?? Navigating todays Relationship Landscape

I've been thinking a lot about the old-school idea of marriage,where the wife is expected to obey her husband. It got me wondering—how do modern couples navigate decision-making and respect?

Is it a true 50/50 team effort, where you talk things out even when you disagree? Or does one person's opinion usually carry more weight? I'll be honest, the idea of being with someone who just agrees with everything I say sounds... lonely. A real connection, for me, needs debate, different perspectives, and the occasional (and difficult!) "You were right, I was wrong."

It also makes me think about boundaries. In any relationship, you set them, but they inevitably get tested. Who usually tests them first? Is it one partner more than the other? I'm curious about the dynamics other people have experienced.

Because when I strip all the noise away, my real belief about love is this: ,"True love is when both people in the relationship secretly feel like the other person got the better end of the deal." D.M.B.