Self love is Important
When Mark Twain said, “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval”, he was not wrong. When Robert Morley said, “To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness”, he wasn’t wrong either.
Self love is something we are all talking about these days, especially in the time of lockdown when we have plenty of time for ourselves so we can check on our mental and physical health and actually do something for it. People try different hobbies, pursuing their interest, playing with their pet, anything that makes them happy. To make yourself feel good is nowadays very important for people.
But is making yourself happy truly self love? The quote mentioned above says that self love is just the first secret to true happiness. So what is actually this self love? In our society, being selfish had been seen with wrong attitude and being selfless has been considered as one of the greatest virtue and such kinds of thoughts are embibed in us too. But we forget that no matter how noble or great we want to be, in the end, we all are humans too and we need care and sense of belonging. And no person can get true sense of belonging if h/she doesn’t belong to their ownself. Learning to respect your own self, appreciating things about yourself, your small achievements and not being too harsh on yourself all the time are some ways to love yourself.
The very idea that a person exists in an abusive relationship is not that the person loves the other one but because simply they have no love for their own self. The quote, “We accept the love we think we deserve” applies aptly here. We truly give ourselves the love we think we deserve.
So what Mark Twain said was right. We approve our own image in our mind, we decide what we deserve and what we do not and on that basis, we give ourselves love.
In an already harsh world, it is important to be strong and successful but more than that, its also important to be there for your own self and the people who love you and you love them back. Your true love for any person will just come when you are able to love yourself truly. So, self-love isn’t just an exercise to make yourself happy for some part of the day, it’s an attitude for a healthy and satisfactory life.