SLC-S29/W3 | Mind & Learn: The Psychology Journey "Anger Control"
Some people say anger is inborn, while others say it's a sudden change in your behavior towards a person who may have offended you or something. Controlling anger is difficult for some people but very possible.
Describe your techniques for controlling anger and emotions. What is your reaction in that moment when you get excessively angry? |
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Anger is of different types, and each anger has certain reactions, but generally anger is not bad. It's the way we react to the anger in a situation that makes it bad. When we're angry, the following techniques can help us avoid reacting to the anger.
- Think of the consequences: The reaction to anger always leads to consequences or regret that may be a lifetime scar to us. When you think of the consequences, you'll be able to control your emotions to do something bad at that point in time.
Deep Breathing: Take a deep breath when you're angry to help avoid saying things that may enter your mouth at first. This deep breathing helps suppress you in a way.
Walk away: To avoid creating scenes due to how angry you are, just walk away from the situation. This doesn't show weakness. It shows maturity and strength.
Mindful meditation and listening to music After you must have done the above, you take your time and meditate in a calm place to filter your thoughts so you'll not have to depend on negativities which may trigger resentment. It will also help us develop this inner ability to overlook certain situations with a calm mind and heart. Listening to emotional music also soothes our mind and makes us think of what would have happened if we had done otherwise. Then, we'll be happy we didn't do so.
negativities, relaxation as I'll discuss, helps a lot.
When I get excessively angry, I always try to think of the consequences that would result if I allow my anger to control me and then picture myself even in that person's shoes and perceive how it would react to the reaction of such anger.
In most cases, I do walk away to avoid doing things I'll regret later, even though people say I'm a weakling or so. Then I'll later approach the person when I'm calm and tell him my feelings towards what he did.
Record a video, and share its benefits, and share how effective it is for you. |
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The progressive muscle relaxation exercise was as if it were meant for me. I did the fist, toes, face, stomach, and neck exercise. It was as if I was compiling my anger when contracting and then dumping it away when I released it. It was such a relief to me. These are some of the benefits this exercise helps us see.
- It builds in our mind that anger can destroy us if we don't let it go. Have you tried contracting for a minute? And then release. How do you feel when you release or let go? I felt free. No burden
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Reduces Stress: When your muscles and nerves are stretched, as most of us barely have time for fitness, we tend to relieve that inner stress in us, and we feel alive once more. Why? It's our body's muscles that respond to stress. So this exercise would be good for this.
Reduces physical tension and sprain: Most of us experience a sharp sprain in our muscles whether working, walking, or standing. Even our necks do feel this at times. The rotations in our neck and toes help reduce those sharp tensions.
- Reduces possibilities for us to get angry immediately: When we contract and release, we work on our nerves, which control how we respond to things.
There will be a short story, read the story and express your own thoughts. |
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Entering this story by merely reading it shows that one wrong action done in anger can cost lives. Let's look after this critically from Mr. Dipak, his wife, and his children, as the story illustrates.
Mr Dipak |
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Mr Dipak had insecurities, which led to his uncontrollable anger, not recognizing that his children are watching and they would be greatly affected by this. Instead of dealing with his insecurities in a good way, he gradually nurtured them, which affected his wife, and it got to a point when it escalated, leading to his imprisonment and the death of his wife. He would have managed his anger and talked to a trusted friend for help instead of dying in silence.
Most times people tend to change when you speak sense to them. He would have also thought of how the children would be affected when they see that he's treating their mother unfairly and how they would treat their own wives when they marry because children learn from their parent's example. A good husband too needs to overlook certain things instead of dwelling on trivial matters in a family setting.
His anger led him to make a mistake he'll never forgive himself for. He realized he was wrong after the action had already taken deep roots.
The Wife |
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The wife died in silence and felt she should still be submissive with the maltreatment and physical abuse. She failed to see that at times, keeping silent just to promote peace can lead to disastrous consequences. Her silence allowed the problem to continue. On her part, she did good by not allowing her anger to erode her actions, as she would have also fought and killed the husband, which may lead to regrets.
She would have talked to people close to her husband to talk sense to him, and when he's in a good mood, she too could have approached him and talked things out, trying to help her own husband solve his problem.
The children |
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The children on their part did the mistake of not speaking out too. There are children that are as little as that can save the family from shame. If they had begged the father, talked to him in a calm way and collect the beatings with the mother, the father would have had an after thought. He wouldn't want to see his children cry and suffer because of his actions. He would have been touched.
They also copied bad example from their father and did the same to their teachers which affected them emotionally after seeing the consequences of their father's actions on their late mother and imprisoned father. They'll live on with this trauma for the rest of their lives. They had the opportunity to help correct matters no matter how small but instead, they copied the bad behaviour, thinking it's the best way to command respect and show levels.
Create an infographic on the five steps of anger control |
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