Expectations
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Hello My Steemain Friends ,
How are you. I hope you people of steemian are good and enjoy your life . Well I am well. May God bless you all. Today I am writing about an interesting topic is "Expectations" So, in this post I am going to share my point of view about this topic. I am going to share with you.
These days, I believe the main cause of suffering is over-expecting others. When we expect too much from others, and then our hopes are not met, then the person gets into trouble, behavior deteriorates, and relationships deteriorate. So, I believe that if you want to avoid suffering, don't have expectations from anyone. Because no one lives up to your expectations, no matter how close they are.
I believe that the cause of most people's suffering these days is over-expecting others. People expect things from others that are impossible, and when those expectations aren't met, accusations begin, and then distance comes in the relationship. So, I always say that before expecting anything from anyone, put yourself in that situation and imagine what you're expecting from them. Ask yourself if you could do that for someone. If you yourself can't do that for someone else, how can you expect anything from anyone?
When a person reflects on such circumstances, they conclude that they are expecting too much, pressuring people. I'll give you an example: a woman with two brothers and two sisters. Her parents passed away, and she got married in another city. She's been married for 26 years. She never let anyone in her family know that she wasn't getting along with her husband.
She has three children. Even her parents thought everything was going well. Because whenever they saw her, they always saw her happy, and sometimes sad. It seemed like something is going on between every husband and wife. Similarly, there must be something going on between them too. Now, suddenly, after 26 years, that sister tells her parents that she wants to come back with her children.
I'm not getting along with my husband at all, I want a divorce. How can a brother and sister support two marriageable daughters, an older son, and three grown-up children? In this era of inflation, and now that my brothers and sisters aren't coming forward, the sister feels like no one is helping me. I have to live alone. But the reality is, she can't understand how easily leaving her husband and coming back is possible. Then, how can she even get her children married?
So, she also feels bad about her parents, saying, "They're useless, their parents are useless." Parents around the world are so supportive of their daughters, but everyone's situation and financial situation are different. Even if the financial situation is good, it feels bad if the parents don't help. But if the financial condition of your parents is also not good then how can you expect anything from them and you know from the beginning what is the financial condition of your parents, so today she is not happy with her in-laws, nor is she happy with her parents, so in the end I would say this, do not expect more than necessary.
I would like to invite my three friends @sur-riti , @pandora2010 , @chant
Thankyou 🙏
आज कई दिन के बाद steemit पर आने का मौका मिला , आपकी पोस्ट पढ़ी , विलम्ब के लिए खेद हे, इसमें मुझे पहले से कोई शक नहीं हे की आप एक साहसी लेखक हे, और आप हर बार कोई नया विषय लेकर आती हैं , इस बार का विषय भी एक आम लेकिन बेहद सच्चा विषय हे , हम इन समस्याओं से जूझते हैं और फिर किसी से बहुत उम्मीदें रखते हैं। लेकिन हमें ये भी सोचना चाहिए की शायद उस इंसान की उतनी हैसियत, या स्थिति न हो की वो आपकी मदद कर इसको अपना हक़ नहीं समझना चाहिए। लेकिन किसी ने सच कहा हे की यदि आप किसी को न कहते हैं या उसकी मदद में संकोच करते हैं तो आपकी इज्जत उसी समय से कम होने लगती हे. लेकिन मेरा ये मानना हे की हमेशा स्पष्टवादिता अच्छी होती हे. बाद में बुरा बनने से पहले ही बुरा बनना बेहतर हे।
लेकिन यदि आप किसी की मदद कर सकते हैं तो अवश्य करें।
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बिल्कुल सही कहा आपने,पहले ही बार ना कहने से आप कई प्रकार के धर्मसंकट से बच सकते हैं। क्योंकि कभी कभी हम मदद तो करना चाहते हैं लेकिन जितनी मदद की जरूरत सामने वाले को है उतना करना हमारी सामर्थ्य से बाहर है। तो होता यह है कि आपकी पिछली सभी मदद को व्यक्ति भूल जाता है और सिर्फ इस बार की ना याद रह जाती है। आजकल यही समय चल रहा है। यही विडम्बना है।
Hello ma'am, I strongly agree with you in this matter. People expect so much from others and they end up getting disappointed and frustrated. No body is perfect even those who expect too much from others may not be able to give out if others expect from them too.