I Love Steemit AND Its Haters & Complainers
Yes, that title is 100% true, not just click-bait.
That might sound like an odd thing to say, since you'll find me advocating for the whole concept behind Steemit left and right, and you will certainly hear me telling people about the power of such ideas to change the landscape of social media.
"But Amanda, Why would you love the people who are spouting off ignorant slams on something they don't understand, or whining about Steemit unfairly because it didn't immediately make them money? Why would you love any of that?"
{sips coffee}
Oh, my darling, I'm so glad you asked.
A Little 'Hate' Is Good For The Market...
There are people who have poor emotional habit patterns. No matter what happens in life, they are usually the ones who are first to find fault, complain, focus on anything negative or unsavory they can find in something, or look for reasons not to act or try something new. Usually, the average troll "reasoning" is rather evidently backed by a deep undercurrent of fear that is the engine of their counterproductive and demotivating thought patterns.
Thing is: intelligent, balanced people know this.
The people who have healthier and more balanced, strategic mindsets that are not driven by worry or fear-based patterns, understand that almost anything that has merit will attract its own troll army. It happens every time.
It happened with the idea of the internet, happened with Bitcoin, is still happening with all kinds of new ideas and technology every day.
So, those of us who are used to seeing the trolls attack things that are actually worth supporting or investigating, know that a whining army of haters glomming onto something is... well,
... Often a sign that the thing is worth checking out.
It is true, the more I live and experience, that quite often people or concepts that are of value attract the troll armies.
{Now, obviously this is not always the case, some things are absolutely deserving of mockery, some things deserving of being 'hated on'. Blind obedience to authority is one damn good example.}
My point here is that people who are usually in a state of open, fearless curiosity, and who focus on supporting other ideas that add value to their lives, are very well aware that a huge amount of decent ideas and people in the world are just going to attract the 'haters'.
When a thoughtful, motivated person sees the latter, they are attracted to check out what is being attacked, since they can see the attacks are empty, and this leads them to think the idea/person being attacked might be something of substance or value.
A little bit of petty hatred, in the era of mass-information-exchange, is a good thing for the growth of an idea. Smart people know to keep an eye out for the good things that get attacked. Some will even reflexively flock to something just because it's being whined about, and that is very good for the expansion of that thing, my friends.
Besides Empty Trolls, Legitimate Complaints Are Welcome
There's a huge difference between just being anti-whatever new thing exists, wanting it to just die ("I hate it all, it's all terrible! Die, scum, die!"), and having a point to make about flaws in the new idea or thing.
The latter is perfectly normal, and while potential flaws in something won't stop a motivated and curious person from investigating or trying out a new thing, it is still necessary for people to point out those flaws for the creator(s) to consider.
The creators might be aware of the flaws, or they might not be, and the complaints about potential flaws with something might be legitimate and they might not be. But if no one speaks up about a way to better something, then that idea isn't subject to any examination that might cause it to get better.
This is somewhat related to my tendency, when assessing something new, to find out what its harshest critics have to say. If, assuming their facts to be true (for the sake of argument), their criticisms are still pretty wimpy, I take that as a pretty good accidental endorsement of the original idea. To put it more bluntly, if people have to desperately fish for stupid things to bitch about, the idea is probably a pretty good one.
ACCIDENTAL ENDORSEMENT!? That's fucking delusional! :)
I like that perspective. Some do this regarding negative product reviews as well. "Oh, is that all? Well that's silly. Maybe I should check this thing out."
I like your style :P
I developed a formula for this ---
trolling = antagonism + dishonesty
If someones being dishonest about something but not antagonizing, they're simply protecting themselves.
If someone is antagonizing without being dishonest about things, they're probably just itching for a fight and know where the right buttons are.
But if they're being dishonest AND antagonizing, odds are they know exactly why they're doing it and they want to fight while protecting themselves.
Oooo, I like this formula. :)
Thanks for the great comment.
Your math checks out.
lulz :)
@dragonanarchist
Meanwhile other cryptos are getting powered up by Steem Dollars.. slowly but surely, to be re-pumped back into Steem riding the wave :)
100% agreed.
If haters never give the right answers, they sometimes ask the right questions.
Ying and Yang are needed for a community to thrive.
Let's hate... with intelligence ;)
Boom, baby!
To me, it comes down to respect and love for fellow humans, even those with tragic expressions of unmet needs. Haters gonna hate and trolls are gonna troll. What I discourage is purposefully hurtful language. I'm a big fan of non-violent communication (see one of my first posts for more), and I think it can reshape the world to be a better place. When saying X or saying Y has a drastically different emotional response from person Z (and when we have some confidence of this, though it is admittedly a subjective measure and requires to actually know something about the psychological state of person Z), I think it's important to use X or Y based on whatever will be best for Z. And yes, sometimes people need tough love. I fully get that. They don't, however, need to be abused verbally (or otherwise) which some trolls/haters seem to enjoy. I'm not advocating for trigger warnings or any of the emotionally juvenile stuff we see on college campuses today, but I am advocating for compassion, understanding, and love, especially when people disagree. I'm advocating for us all to become more emotionally intelligent.
So why am I saying all this? I'm not advocating for Steemit to become some kind of "safe place," but I am hoping for it to be part of the world we all want to live in. If someone is abusive on purpose in order to emotionally harm someone else, again, on purpose, I'm just as happy for them to stay away.
100% agreed, on all of this.
Part of the value of people like me, and like you, saying things like "We love you all, haters!" is to also lead by example in showing proper perspective, healthy confidence, and real maturity.
There will be, for the forseeable future, always some kind of troll army, and to those who are not trolls -- but are sometimes easily affected by them -- the beacons of sanity and calm, intelligent strategy will encourage them to choose the higher path and move towards what they want, regardless of what the trolls are shouting.
Some people just feel threatened by someone else being able to be open and honest. They take that sense of threat to their own ideas and belief system and launch an attack. I've seen this in a lot of situations.
Sometimes I tend to rise to it. If I see someone being bullied and disrespected I have a bad habit of wanting to jump to the person's defense. Working hard on learning balance between supporting someone and just getting into a fight.
I think many empathetic people feel a need to jump in when they see an injustice happening. I like to call it support or solidarity rather than defending. I would like to see a world where we learn that we all have the ability to stand for what we are believing in at the moment, and that we don't need to do that at the expense of another. We don't ever have to choose to be victims. With all the words we could use, especially in written conversations when we have the luxury of time, we can start by choosing the words that are more emotionally neutral, re-read before sending, and ask ourselves would I be ok being on the receiving end of this comment?
Spot on @dragonanarchist.
Not that I support any of the circus show that is mainstream media and U.S. Politics, but Hillary's team should have used a time machine and read your post before allowing her to say some of the things she said this week.
I think it had exactly the effect you described.
"Why did they fire Dr. Drew, what did he say about Hillary?" - so people go look....
"Hillary is bashing Alex Jones, who is he?" - so they looked.
I believe steem and steemit are such a good idea they are here for the long hall. We may encounter some doldrums which is completely normal, but it is so addictive I truly do not care.
It is engaging both hemispheres of my brain. I simply need to learn to control the addictive quality of it, as that part is a bit disruptive to my life. That's my next goal... self control... I need to get some.
I suck at self-control, so I quit trying that, and moved onto self-choreography, wherein I take the most difficult-to-work-with, embedded aspects of my personality that tend to shoot me in the foot, and I figure out the way to work with them, side-step them, dance effortlessly around them.
When you figure out your own psychology, you can try to start adding in your own programming to the programming that's not so easy to remove.
Overtime, the new dance moves sometimes overtake and do away with the old, negative habits of movement, they are drowned out, and a new and more effective dance evolves.
Focus on the old bad habits doesn't often change them, but pointing my focus on flooding my life with new habits that wash out the old ones over time, is precisely what worked for me.
Yep I learned that myself long ago. First step is convincing myself it is a bad habit. I haven't quite confirmed that with steemit. :)
Totally, my thing was victimhood. I felt so comfortable in being the martyr that if I'm not careful I can still slip into that role now, years after I figured out it is a very ineffective way to live.
Love when haters pay my bills! lol
All emotions are a reflection of the person who is acting out those emotions. No one can make me feel any particular way. I am the one who is in control of my thoughts, words, emotions, and actions, but many people seem to not know that or realize it, so they blame others for everything that's terrible in their life. That extends to new ideas, projects, and platforms that other people spend time creating.
That's on them. We can just go on ignoring the hate and let them figure out. In the meantime, their hate gives us exposure, it starts conversations, and sometimes may even lead to an original idea/perspective being born. Like this one. Great post!
Pardon me, but..
FUCK YES. :)
OMG you wrote a dirty word.
Hey, I think you just summed up my life in 1 article! And here I was thinking I was all complex and shit! Haha! Awesome, thanks for the good read!
@dragonanarchist
There is so such thing as bad fame
people who says it cannot be done should not interrupt those who are doing it...