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RE: Is Unfollowing another Steemian considered insulting?

in #steemit6 years ago

I've thought of doing a mini-purge of the people I follow, but for me, unfollowing tends to be an occasional thing. I've turned off "unfollow" notices in GinaBot, because honestly -- I don't want to know.

The content I write is not for everyone and I freely acknowledge that. If you're interested, great! (And I figure you'll stick around.) If not ... no hard feelings.

I am not at all into -- if you follow me, I'll follow you. You have to write things that interest me to stay in my line. So, if the only reason you follow me is hoping I'll follow you back, then you're in for a terrible surprise.

I'm perfectly fine following people who don't and never will follow me back. If they write stuff that interests me, I'll stick around. I'll upvote it. I'll recommend it. I'll put it in my curation posts. Good work is good work. Period.

I'll check out people who comment on my posts to see if we have anything in common. Usually we don't -- and that, too, is ok. I have a wide variety of interests, so you don't have to be remotely connected to my special niche for me to follow you and find you interesting.

In the beginning I was surprised to find how many people would write something great -- and I'd follow them -- and that was the only worthwhile thing they ever posted. (Believe me, that was discouraging.) So, after a while, I'll unfollow -- as you said, because their content just doesn't interest me. I wade through enough junk already on Steemit.

I deliberately search for interesting new people. (But if they aren't consistent, I'll soon be gone.) I find I unfollow people who resteem a lot of stuff I don't want to read, but on the other hand, I find some really interesting new contacts from good people resteeming other good people. So I guess that pretty much evens out.

I've lived long enough to know that very few are "my people." (Very, very few, in fact.) When there's a real connection, it's great. When it misses ... well, c'est la vie!

I don't consider it an insult either way. (BTW, not everyone feels this way for certain!! ) It does make me sad when I've spent a lot of time carefully writing something that interests me -- and that I think has value -- and then finding the right illustrations so it really is something I'm proud of -- to find others never want to hear from me again.

But it's not the first time -- and it's certainly not the worst time. As I said, I'd just rather not know. Besides, I enjoy my writing and my work more when I'm not worried about pleasing everyone. If it has value for me, I consider it was worth the time I spent on it. If it does someone else some good, too ... great!

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The overwhelming majority of people say the same thing , 'I don't care if someone un-follows me', but is it some deep down form of rejection perhaps?

I can usually figure out why someone un-follows me, and its generally with merit, and then I would think., 'fair enough'.