@casandrarose There is an old saying that a cluttered desk is the sign of a cluttered mind. A cluttered mind though is the sign of either genius or insanity.

Sadly we stop it there and fail to consider other factors.

You have a serious medical condition. Your immune system is actively trying to kill you.

Frankly I find it amazing you have any energy or time to accomplish anything.
But it's not like a visitor coming over is going to know that, especially an uninvited one.

This wasn't about you specifically though. You live in a world where most of your primary support group is truly gone. Where most people would find a support network of eager family, friends and neighbors, you find yourself utterly alone. You're building that network now, but establishing life long relationships is the work of a lifetime.

Most people don't. They stay in one place their whole lives and they live in a world where they actually have the time, and the support to accomplish anything they want. Instead they choose to use this for "leisure time", vs bettering their situation and the situation of their kids.

Your example of Ms Tidy though is wrong. She has a mental condition and she takes the house cleaning thing to an extreme. In the process she exhausts herself to the point of needing hospitalization.

So both of you get a pass in my book.

You took the time with your kids to teach them to ask deep and thought provoking questions and to seek out answers. To accept nothing at face value, but instead, to probe until there are no more questions down that path. To my mind, that's the best possible outcome as long as you keep nurturing it.

Oh BTW, in my trans-humanism article I talk about a re-programmable immune system. That whole thing stems from a promise I made you some years back. You should give it another read.