Effective threesome.(part1)

If you haven’t already, the obvious first step is to let your partner know you’re interested in having a threesome. If you’re worried about how your partner might react to this news, explain your reasoning. It’s easy to think the worst when someone shares that they’re interested in having a threesome. Your partner might worry that you want to have a threesome because you’re not attracted to them anymore, or you’re bored with your sex life, or you’re interested in someone else. You can assuage these fears by letting your partner know what sounds sexy about having a threesome with them in particular. Make it clear that your partner is the most important person in the triad—not the third person.

Get Clear on Your Boundaries

If you’re both on board with the idea of trying a threesome, the next step is to talk about the specifics of what you want to do. In particular, what guidelines or boundaries do you want to have in place? Do you want any specific boundaries for your very first threesome? For example, maybe you want to ease into things by just kissing and fondling. Here are some possibilities to think about:

• What specific sexual activities do you feel comfortable doing with a third person?
• What specific sexual activities are off the table? Maybe you’re comfortable with intercourse, but you don’t want kissing.
• Are the rules different for each partner?
• What happens if one of you gets jealous or uncomfortable in the middle of the threesome?
• What do you want the third person to do after the threesome?
• Are you open to repeat performances with the same person?

We didn’t

The first piece of solid advice I got was, ‘Be prepared to linger in the bathroom while the other two make themselves a bit more acquainted.

It’s not a competition

Even though we all know you really, really want to win.

Remember, this is a marathon, not a sprint, so it’s alright to take rests and allow everyone to go at their own pace.

I’m trying to put this delicately, but I can’t. Basically, in a male/male/female threesome there always seems to be an undertow of ‘who can make her cum the most/who can last the longest’.

Be determined and prepared for it

Get to know what you want. Threesome is not something to be doubtful about. You are going to want to back out especially if it is the first time and your decision is not strong enough. It is also very important to check in with yourself and ensure that you're doing what you're doing for the right reasons. Are you feeling secure with yourself? Do you think the actual reality of a threesome is as attractive as it seem?

Communicate it to your partner

If you are determined and ready for this. It is important to communicate it and make sure that you and your partner are in for this. It has to be something he/she is willing to do, not just to satisfy your fantasy.

The discussion of threesome should be discussed hypothetically. It should be seen as a healthy practice with a considerable amount of understanding. You should communicate to each other’s on personal expectations of the practice. You should talk at length about the topic that it doesn’t sound weird or strange to communicate and practicalize.

Find your third partner or the next two partner

This step is mostly the strangest and toughest process of finding your partner(s) in threesome. Most persons find asking people for threesome awkward and most of the time would shy away from doing so. For motivational sake, always bear in mind the ecstasy and fantasy you will savour. It would be all worthy it at the end.

There are several option to explore. You can ask a friend or acquaintances if they have prior experience on it, search online for such services near you, hit a swingers club or approach contenders at bar. Irrespective of the route you chose to give a try, as a firstie, you are going to feel awkward. So give it a try anyway.

However you meet or find your partner(s), one thing that should not be overlook is making sure you get to know each other and create a friendly and comfortable atmosphere. Take a little time to get to know each other. Meet in person, maybe somewhere public, before you decide to go through with anything. Talk for a little while about normal stuff, about sex, about specific threesome stuff. Discuss and Set expectations.

No woman wants a threesome to ruin her relationship. Sex creates intimacy. And for that, it is better you don't have an aftermath personal connection with your threesome partner. And they shouldn't look more attractive to your partner than you. If she looks better than you naked, I will advise, she shouldn't join your boudoir party. The less hot the threesome partner, the better your chances of keeping your current partner all to yourself, particularly after the sex. So, enjoy the fun with an average looking girl or guy.

Things to highly consider before getting into the act.

When you have cross the bridge with good results, I will advise you should be stock up on condoms. Like, a lot of condoms, because you should be changing condoms every time you switch between sexual acts.

And lastly, the hotel is always a better location for the act. It will give a sense of security, privacy and you don’t have to worry about domestic sphere. And maybe at the end, you don’t want to ever meet your threesome partner again, then you are safe.

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