All that you say is absolutely true and sad. I believe this 'definition of male' is a bit 'deeper' engrained in some countries than it is in the Netherlands (although I'm living in a city, I honestly have no 'real' clue what's happening in the countryside...) but I have seen first-hand how my father (50+) has had to learn to be more emotional and expressive about stuff he's concerned with throughout his life. He even got a brain cloth from it at some point, it didn't leave permanent damage, fortunately, but I've seen how he learned from it afterwards. He's more concerned about other people's well-being and I get waaaaaaay more hugs and my mother has seen my father cry for the first time in their 35+ year marriage only 2 years ago.

Societies need time, we'll get there, but there's still a long way to go. Thanks for your reply @aussieninja, I appreciate it :-)