RE: The Steem Sister Show - Episode 60 // Feminism (Extended Episode)
Thanks for this sisters! I watched the whole thing and I have to be honest - I'm not a patient person when it comes to videos :') But it's definitely a topic close to my heart and you did well keeping it fairly personal - and therefore hopefully relatable to those who can walk through life without these worries.
One thing I'm adding to al conversations now regarding feminism is the fact that gender inequality doesn't solely affect women. It also affects men, which is why it's a topic that is important for both genders. There's a lot of suicides and mental illnesses that solely flow out of the pressure men experience from their surroundings to being strong, never cry, take care of the house (mortgage, bills, reparations) and be the strong and levelheaded head of the family.
These are all things 'appointed' to male figures even though in some relationships a different way of dividing these tasks might make more sense.
Anyway, just wanted to add that. Mentioning @evecab here because she's interested in the topic as well :-)
Also: brave thing you did posting this, it's not a popular topic and you (or I for posting this comment) always risk negative responses after even mentioning 'the big bad word'. It's a problem we have to feel scared or powerplayed from time to time, but it's a bigger problem we're not always 'allowed' to speak about it.
Great comment @soyrosa! White men in their 40s/50s are committing suicide at absolutely alarming rates in the US, and it's theorised that it's mainly due to loneliness - because the baby boomer men don't have close friends or people they can truly talk to... as well as the pressures of feeling outdated, losing jobs, family pressures, etc.
All of these issues, on both sides, just wouldn't exist if we started a brand new country today... it almost feels silly that our society somehow created these problems in the first place.
All that you say is absolutely true and sad. I believe this 'definition of male' is a bit 'deeper' engrained in some countries than it is in the Netherlands (although I'm living in a city, I honestly have no 'real' clue what's happening in the countryside...) but I have seen first-hand how my father (50+) has had to learn to be more emotional and expressive about stuff he's concerned with throughout his life. He even got a brain cloth from it at some point, it didn't leave permanent damage, fortunately, but I've seen how he learned from it afterwards. He's more concerned about other people's well-being and I get waaaaaaay more hugs and my mother has seen my father cry for the first time in their 35+ year marriage only 2 years ago.
Societies need time, we'll get there, but there's still a long way to go. Thanks for your reply @aussieninja, I appreciate it :-)
Thank you so much for the brave and thoughtful comment! It really is telling that we have to be so nervous to post anything talking about equality.
Thanks for mentioning that feminism is far more than just women's inequality - but that men suffer from these power dynamics as well. This conversation is really about equality for all - not just one group.
Love you for leaving this comment and adding so much to the conversation! <3