My Story Part 4; Culture Shock continued
Looking back, I realize the wedding preparation and the wedding itself were very stressful. He did not make it any easier. Arguing and disagreeing a lot on so many things; the littlest of things even.He wanted to control everything down to how the dance floor would look. I was so overwhelmed.
I remember we disagreeing on who was to MC at our reception thus decided to discard both our choices and go with a neutral person. I arrive at the reception and I hear his choice(that we had supposedly discarded) on the mic. I can’t begin to describe how I felt; so annoyed, sad, feeling disrespected. I still haven’t spoken about it till today because of course he will get angry and turn it all around.
It hurts to say this. I’m not a girly girl; someone who dreamt of how her wedding day was going to be and all the fairy tale stuff. If I were I would be extraaaa devasted. My wedding day and the days leading up to it were some of the worst days of my life. However, I survived it and tried to put it behind me so I could have a good marriage life.
I don’t think he did same because we walked into marriage and then the ubsurd events started; more like continued lol😂.
The very first and biggest issue, was that he was the man; head of the family(which I had no problem with) and I was disrespectful towards him. Apparently we have different definitions of “head of the family”. His definition as I’ve come to realize, is when a decision is to be made for example, he has the last say; if you have an opinion which is different from what he thinks is right, he either gets angry because he feels insulted or he just brushes it to the side. Basically his word is law; because tribe and religion say the man is the “head”. Thus according to him, that means he’s always right. Now, I am a very understanding person so I don’t mind certain things. To avoid disagreement, I sometimes keep my opinions to myself and just go with his. What worried(and still worries me) is what if your opinion will go a long way in affecting us negatively? You are so stuck in your ways that a different opinion almost feels like a threat to your manhood?; still baffles my mind really……..
To Be Continued..
Please read my previous posts to get the whole story thus far