Good kids usually had moms and dads shaping their behavior.

A funny and relatively consistent component of very successful people is that they had one parent that they felt loved them unconditionally, and another they felt they had to impress. Not sure if that is a good way to aim to parent, but when it comes to "opposites attract" for relationships, perhaps it is relatively common that parental personalities are opposed, often including the approach to parenting.

I often viewed the passion here against BidBots with a dispassionate response because I felt the system encouraged the behavior that many said they abhorred.

I spent a long time fighting against them, then I spent an even longer time undermining their value proposition :)

Create a society where the behavior you want to see is rewarded and you see more of it.

It is a variant of the golden rule.