Why do modern relationships fail so quickly? The sad truth behind 'love' nowadays.

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Why are realtionships nowadays something so difficult to achieve? Why do we fail in love, even though we are trying to do our best? Why did people suddenly became so bad in building lasting relationships? Have we forgotten how to love? Or, worse, have we forgotten what love is?

We are not ready. We are not ready for the sacrifices, the compromises, the unconditional love. We are not ready to devote everything that is necessary to make a realtionship. We want everything to be easy. We are deniers. All it takes is a single obstacle for us to throw everything away. We do not let our love grow, we let it go before that.

It is not love what we seek, but the excitement and the thrill of life

We want someone with whom to watch movies and go to parties, not someone who understands us even in absolute silence.

We spend time together, but we do not create memories. We do not want a dull life. We do not want a partner for a lifetime, but only someone who can make us feel alive at the moment.

When the excitement passes, we realize, that nobody has ever prepared us for the boring things.

We do not believe in the beauty of routine, because we are blinded by the thrill of adventure.

We immerse in the insignificant events of urban life, leaving no place for love.

We do not have time to love, we have no patience to deal with relationships.

We are too busy pursuing materialistic dreams - and there is no place for love. Realtionships are just convenience.

We look for immediate satisfaction in everything we do - in the things we publish online, in the careers we choose, in the people we fall in love with.

We want the maturity of the relationship, that comes with time, the emotional relationship that is built up for years and the feeling of belonging, when we hardly know the other person. Apparently nothing deserves our time and patience - even love.

We would prefer to spend an hour with 100 people than spend a day with a single one.

We believe we have "options" and "alternatives". We are "social" people. We trust more in meeting people than in getting to know them. And we are greedy. We want to have everything.

We get into realtionships easily, even only with a bit of attraction and we leave as soon as we find someone better.

We do not want to bring out the best in a particular person. We want him to be perfect by default. We go out with many people, but rarely give any of them a real chance. We are disappointed by everyone.

The technologies have brought us so close that it is difficult for us to breathe.

Our physical presence has been replaced by text messages, voice messages, snapchats and video chats. We no longer need to spend time together.

There is nothing left to talk about.

We are a generation of "wanderers" who do not stay in one place for too long.

Everyone has a phobia of commitment. We believe we are not created for realtionships. We do not want to settle

Even the thought of it is frightening. We can not imagine spending the rest of our lives with a single person.

We leave.

We condemn the persistence as some kind of a social evil. We love to believe that we are "different" from the rest. We love to believe that we do not fit into social norms.

We are a generation that identifies itself as "sexually liberated".

We distinguish sex from love, or at least we think so.

First we have sex and then we decide if we want to love someone. Sex comes easy, loyalty does not.

Sleeping with someone has become entertainment. You do it not because you love the other person, but because you want to feel good.

It's just the temporary satisfaction we need. Sex without relationship is no longer a taboo.

Realtionships are no longer so simple. There are open relationships, friendships with benefits, one night sex, non-binding f*cking - we have left too little exclusivity for love in our lives.

We are the practical generation that relies only on logic.

We no longer know how to love madly, to insanity. We would not board the plane to distant lands just to see someone we love. We're breaking up because ... the distance is too much.

We are too reasonable to love. Too reasonable for our own good.

We are the fearfull generation - we are afraid of falling in love, we are afraid to commit, we are afraid to fall, we are afraid of being hurt, we are afraid of someone breaking our hearts.

We do not trust anyone, nor do we make the move to love someone unconditionally. We hide behind walls that we have built, looking for love and fleeing at the moment we really find it.

Suddenly "we can not handle this." We do not want to be vulnerable. We do not want to reveal our soul to anyone.

We are too cautious.

We do not even value the realtionships anymore.

We do not keep the most wonderful people because there are "many more fish in the sea". We no longer consider them sacred.

There is nothing we can not conquer in this world, but we are awkward in the game of love-the most basic of human instincts.

And they say this is evolution...

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low mutual understanding
no compromising with each other
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