Extract From My Book - Love Outside The Box
STEPPING BACK INTO THE PAST – EARLY CHILDHOOD
"Where does the foundation of all relationships come from? Inevitably these are all formed throughout our childhood by observing and interacting with people around us. Whatever example we have from our own upbringing is going to be part and parcel of how we are with our own children. No matter the situation we were brought up in, we select the elements that have value and try to discard the elements that do not. No matter what we believe, many aspects of our childhood are toxic in one way, shape, or form. And our upbringing, including how we view love, begins at conception.
When we look for an explanation of love and its meaning, it stems from that love which was shared with us from birth. Unfortunately, many children, including myself, are subjected to tremendous abuse at all levels. The image of love is tainted with this experience. Unless we are willing to take that journey back to those times of pain or suffering, we carry this with us, into all our relationships. Many are afraid of opening Pandora’s Box, for fear of yet more pain and suffering; unfortunately, this is a major dilemma we are faced with today.
From my own life experience, I know that I attempted to get to the root of the issues in my own relationships with others despite pain and suffering. On at least 3 occasions I invested a great deal of time in understanding who I am. During these times it always began the journey back to childhood and the way in which I was treated. But is how we were treated by others just an excuse? Blaming others for the way things are happening in our lives is easy. As adults, we are ultimately responsible for our own actions in all that we do, so pointing the finger backwards seems to be the easy way out.
But what happened to us as children was not our responsibility, and never will be. Somehow we have to make peace with this, but it is often hampered because of societal expectations about family. At the same time we also have to live our lives, and already we are transferring that trauma which we suffered into our current life. So it is a perpetuating cycle, because there simply is no time left for us to explore our past and heal our emotional selves, and this is a travesty."
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Yes.. But we should take control of it. Don't let it affect us into treating others badly. The care we didn't get, we should strive to give to our family, kids, friends... Love given to family is like boomerang 😊
This is an extract from the book - highlighting the issues many go through their life. Love is unconditional, but the "image" of love is embedded in our psyche from our experiences. Once we shatter the illusions of all that we have been told is true, we then reach our truth. The art of self-mastery!
Aha 🤔 it's a deep way of thinking. I should ponder about it further
It is a very simple way of thinking...your truth is all yours, the rest is others opinions and conditioning. Truth and Love are all very personal, each being unique as our DNA :) If you look back at your life especially at your childhood, all the stories you were told about when you grow up, how much is true today? If you have not experienced it, encountered it or witnessed it personally, how can it be true??
Aha 🤔 the concept of God is also like that I guess. It's all personal. Unique 🤔
You are God :) You are your own creator...you are the master of your own destiny. Religion is also covered in my book, its purpose and role in humanity, and how it too is another institution that controls man. But that is another extract for another day :)
He he☺️ cool 👍